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I don't know where to post this...(long)
I'm having a really hard time right now. I am due in just over 2 months and I have finally hit the nesting stage. I was up all night last night doing dishes and then even got up again this morning and tried to finish them. I was doing well until I had a back spasm that landed me on the couch for 2 hours not being able to move.
I'm really starting to worry that with only 66 days left the apartment isn't going to be ready to bring him home. What happens if he comes early? I just feel like I'm totally unprepared. Things haven't been getting done because I keep getting sick and after being on my feet at the store I work at all day all I want to do is sit down and put my feet up. We have so much left to accomplish. We need to finish cleaning the apartment, move furniture from one room to the other to make room for the crib.
Tonight I can't shut my mind off. I need to go to bed because I have to go to work early tomorrow morning. My brain is just moving at warp speed and everything that needs to be done before he gets here feels like its not going to get done.
The last couple nights I haven't been able to sleep because of the same thing. I just feel helpless. Its feel as if I've already failed my son. I don't know why I feel this way I have a feeling it's just my emotions being out of whack and lack of sleep.
I don't like feeling this way. I've had stress related braxton hicks contractions because I got overwhelmed at work on Sunday. I'm still waiting on my test results from the GTT and probably won't get anything until my doctors appointment on Tuesday as they don't call if it's good news. I'm probably just overreacting and just need to stop worrying about everything.
Thanks for reading I'm just trying to clear my head.
Re: I don't know where to post this...(long)
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12
I agree with blenderdance. This sounds pretty normal and I'm you start feeling better.
I agree, sounds normal to me (actually, it sounds like what I go through once every month - six weeks or so when I freak out about the state of our place). Have you talked about your concerns with your DH? My tactic is always to sit down with Phil, make a list of everything that needs doing and make a plan on how we're going to deal with it. It's just too overwhelming if you let those thoughts cycle through your head. Get it down on paper, set yourself some deadlines and get plugging away.
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I'm sure nearly every expectant mother feels this way towards the end, don't fret!
I do have a suggestion, though: for your own peace of mind, and for the sake of your sore back, why don't you have a cleaning service come and give your house a top-to-bottom scrub-down. Have them come now, so you can feel peaceful, and plan on having them come again closer to when the baby is due. It's not *that* expensive, and it would put you so much more at ease, so you just get to worry about the fun stuff like setting up the nursery.
I could have written your post myself having just had a talk with DH about this last night. I understand how you feel and the best thing you can do right now is talk to your DH about how you're feeling. I'm sure what you're feeling is a normal part of pregnancy and it's really overwhelming at times.
I think you should make a to-do list of the things you feel are a must do before the baby is here. Remember you don't have to do it all now, you still have a few months to do things little by little. Like blenderdance said, the baby won't care about any of those things. As long as you have the crib or bassinet ready for him to sleep in, everything is is secondary to that.
Good luck with everything. Things will work out, just take it one step at a time.
Thanks ladies. DH and I actually talked about this last night before I about it. He feels bad because he has been saying he is going to do things and he hasn't been doing them. He blamed himself for me not being able to sleep and doing all the dishes because he has been lazy. I felt much better after writing all that out and talking about it. I'm just truly glad that I'm not the only one that feels this way.
I wish I had family around that could help out. My grandma would be the best but she lives 300 miles away and has responsibilities and no time right now. My mom and I don't get along and she is really the last person I want help from. My MIL lives 600 miles away and can hardly take care of her own health right now. My dad and step-mom are close but they are barely making it. My dad has been working away from home and only spending weekends with his family and my step-mom is trying to keep her sanity working with crazy clients that she can't stand. My FIL has his own issues right now and is also barely taking care of himself.
If I called and asked for help they would probably be willing to help out. I just don't want to be an added burden to them when they all have other things they need to take care of. I do have friends that have offered without me asking but I also feel terrible accepting it when its not their responsibility even though they were the ones offering.Accept and then pay it forward. There's nothing wrong with leaning on your friends. That's what they're there for!
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What you're feeling is normal. Relax. You have not failed your son, nor anyone else. You have a good home, and you son will have a place to sleep when he arrives. I agree with getting help. I am also reluctant to ask anyone for help, but if family and/or friends are offering, go with it.
You're going to be fine, and a great Mom!