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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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QsOTD - Monday 2/14
This is a two parter.First, what is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?Second, what are your true, honest, possibly brutal thoughts on Valentines Day as a whole?
Re: QsOTD - Monday 2/14
1. Thtat's a really hard question. I'll have to put some thought into it.
2. I think it's pointless. Restaurants get super packed, too much money gets spent, too much junk gets bought. I am not lying to DH when I tell him all I want/need to do is exchange cards. Yes, we said the new phones would be our V-Day presents to each other, but we would have gotten new phones regardless. It's just an excuse. I would rather save the money for birthday presents, Christmas presents, anniversary trips than drop a lot on Valentines Day. Would I complain if I got flowers on Valentines Day? Of course not. But I'd rather DH just randomly think, my wife's been great lately, I should send her flowers, than do it just because it's Feb 14th.
First, what is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you? On our anniversary just this past year, I had to work late and wasn't feeling good so JJ told me he'd take care of dinner. I expected a pizza or for him to say we were going to Chipotle. I walk in the door and he's immaculately cleaned the house, got the lights off and tons of candles lit, and prepared a fancy taco dinner. He had flowers and he made me a card and wrote the sweetest things in it, and then he told me the plans for the rest of the night, which were to get our Christmas tree and ornaments for each other. It was totally unexpected and really thoughtful.
Second, what are your true, honest, possibly brutal thoughts on Valentines Day as a whole? I think it's sweet to have a day where you think about love and are reminded of the great relationships in your life. I don't like the extreme commercialization and the expectations put on the day. I don't think gifts are necessary, but a nice gesture. I also think it's about just more than the love with a partner, but also about all of the love in your life. And chocolate is awesome.
1. When I was 17 (DH was 19) he planned a picnic to celebrate one month of dating (yes, lame, but that's what teenagers do). Instead of putting together a specific meal, he went through the grocery store and just bought anything he knew I really liked. It was a total hodge podge but when we got to the park I was totally overwhelmed by how sweet he was. We got married in that same park 7 years later (his suggestion).Considering how long ago that was, DH may need to step it up in the romance department.
2. At this point, I don't really care either way. I get DH a card every year. Some years he gets me one, some years he forgets. I wish he'd remember more but it's not worth getting upset over. I'd love some flowers but once again, not worth fighting over. If he's not working (which by some miracle he's not today) we'll usually go to dinner as an excuse to get out of the house. I feel like it's nice to celebrate it but if we don't, oh well.
This is a two parter.First, what is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
My H drove from Canada to JFK airport to pick me up after I missed my flight. Of course this was the same night he was planning on proposing and I screwed it up.
Second, what are your true, honest, possibly brutal thoughts on Valentines Day as a whole?
I think it is kind of crap that it is mandated that this day we get overly mushy and sensitive and lovey with our significant other. To me, it means so much more on a random Tuesday because there weren't 1000 ads and reminders saying "YOU MUST BUY YOUR WIFE FLOWERS/CHOCOLATE/DIAMONDS." I could really take it or leave it.
2) It's over commercialized but I like giving and getting gifts so I'm not really opposed to it.
1. Our two year dating anniversary in Savannah. He arranged multiple romantic things to happen over the long weekend that we were there. This was in 2005.
2. We use it as an excuse to buy things that we would eventually buy. It is usually another excuse for us to go out for a nice dinner.
1. When we were first dating my husband came back from being away for his 3 weeks at work with a poem he had written for me. He sat down and read it to me and I was blown away, especially since he is not a sentimental person. He also got me a charm for my charm bracelet this Christmas with a mom and a baby on the front and a message engraved on the back.
2. Valentine's Day- as long as I get a card or some kind of acknowledgement I am happy! No need for expensive flowers or gifts.
1. When DH proposed to me was definitely the most romantic. It was already really special before he proposed because we were on a cross country road trip. He proposed on the beach at sunset in California. It didn't work out quite the way he wanted it to (other than me saying yes of course!) but it was so perfect for us.
2. I do not like Valentine's day. I was planning on boycotting it this year but DH surprised me by taking me to dinner last night. It is way too commercialized. I'd prefer to celebrate a day that is special to us instead of a generic one.
Second, what are your true, honest, possibly brutal thoughts on Valentines Day as a whole? Since DH has worked every Valentines day since we have been together we never have actually celebrated on the day. We usually skip the gifts and use the holiday as an excuse to go out to a nice dinner one night during that week.
DH also sent me a box of presents with notes on them, but we weren't dating yet. I was so struck by how thoughtful they were that I realized how we felt about each other.
I love Valentines Day. Sure, you don't NEED a contrived holiday to show your affection, but it's just fun, and sometimes stops a dry spell. No need to go overboard and try to do something crazy expensive though.
1. I don't know. I'll have to give it some more thought.
2. I love Valentine's Day. Even in college my roomies and I would make cards and do little gift exchanges and stuff. I think it's a fun day.
1. I was having a really hard week (this is before DH and I were married), and he drove over to my house early in the morning and put a trail of paper hearts from my door to my car with things like "I dream of a future with you" and "You are beautiful" written on them. I cried.
2. Conflicted. I guess its sweet that there is a day set aside to commemorate love, but it seems like a bit of a nothing holiday to me. Like Columbus Day.
This is a two parter.
First, what is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
All the most romantic gestures I can think of in hindsight also seem slightly stalkerish.
Second, what are your true, honest, possibly brutal thoughts on Valentines Day as a whole?
I'm fine with it. It's a reminder day to do something nice for the people you love...nothing wrong with that.
When I read this I sucked in the crumbs of the cheez-its I was eating and proceeded to choke and then cough for five minutes. Awesome answer.
In high school, my DH, then BF, made our own private homecoming dance in his teacher's classroom during lunch. Our first date was supposed to be the homecoming dance, but he wasn't able to go and wanted to make up for it.
I don't like the expectations of Valentine's Day. I can do without chocolates and flowers, even though they are nice.
The most romantic thing I can think of at the moment is when I had trained really hard for a 10K race, and I really really wanted to run it without stopping, which was a huge feat for me at that point.. Not only did he run it with me (it literally/physically causes him pain to run at my slow pace. lol), but he got 6 or 7 of our friends to secretly plan to be at certain places along the race to cheer me on. It was a torrential downpour all leading up to and for the first 15mins or so of the race, and they were all still out there.
I also found it stinking adorable that he hunted down fleece-lined/hard-bottomed slippers that would fit my massive canoes-for-feet and ordered them for me for no reason last month. (I kept saying how I was jealous of his)
Vday -- I think taking it seriously and expecting things is kind of ridiculous. We do cards, but we both really like funny cards.. We regularly by no-reason cards just bec they're fun. Actually, it's kind of funny... we watched Better with You last week, and one of the guys said something like, "I'm not going to be the one A-hole in america who doesn't bring home flowers on valentine's day!"... and dave goes white and just looks at me. He's never bought me flowers (I don't really LIKE flowers.. my wedding flowers were fake.... I think they're absurdly expensive)... but he gave me an itunes gift card with my vday card this year and said something like "the same cost as flowers, except it'll be around a lot longer!" I'm sure he wouldn't have done that if not for seeing that show and feeling like he had to.