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Back to heirtoblair - boymom's post below....

She was mean mean mean mean mean.

What, in your opinion, makes someone THAT mean?

Re: Back to heirtoblair - boymom's post below....

  • Sounds clique but self esteem issues. I think some people have to be mean to others to make themselves feel better. When you bring someone else's ego than usually yours feel bigger. It might also be a control issue. People just get off by feeling like what they say or do can affect people in a profound way be it negative or not.
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  • From her apology, it sounds like there could have been a crowd mentality aspect to it, too. People will do atrocious things with the backing of a crowd (see: The Nazis, the Bay of Pigs Invasion, angry mobs composed of otherwise rational people, etc.) because it makes them feel like they're in the right and somehow responsible for leading the cause for the supporters.
  • The anonymity of the internet can cause people to over-share or over-step, in my experience. I think she let herself get carried away with her own words and truly thought she wasn't being as mean as she was. I'm not familiar with her posts, but I've seen it happen.

    Plus, when you add the "crew" that was mentioned in one of the comments on her blog post (do I get bonus points for reading those? It's feeling like a day where I need some bonus points), a person can get goaded into doing or saying things they normally wouldn't.

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  • Blair is pretty much full of shiit most of the time. And her writing style irks me.

    I'm aware that this doesn't at all answer your question.

  • I think it's got to be unhappiness. I haven't a clue who this gal is, but in my very limited experience with mean or snarky people, they've all been unhappy overall. I think they'll always believe the worst about people right off the bat, and that seems like a very exhausting way to go through life.   

  • She probably has always been unpopular.  She discovered that the internet didn't know her past and she created the person she's always longed to be--popular, witty, and powerful.  It's a bad case of low self esteem.

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  • I think it was for entertainment value.  She must have been really bored and had no life because she was always on the boards.  I know I'm totally in the minority here and I'm afraid of what this says about myself, but I don't remember her being that bad.  I read on those boards often when she was around too.  Yes, she was always in the group that picked on someone, but I don't remember thinking she was the meanest one of the bunch or anything.  I even googled her name to look up old posts.  They weren't terrible.  The meanest response I read went something like "Let me look into my cystal ball to tell you if you're pregnant." Maybe I missed all the horrible things she said.  
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  • You know what's funny? Even though she was that mean, she was extremely popular. And that still exists. I mean really, look at all those asskissy comments on there. They all want to be her friend, mean or not mean.

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  • imagegingerfeathers:

    You know what's funny? Even though she was that mean, she was extremely popular. And that still exists. I mean really, look at all those asskissy comments on there. They all want to be her friend, mean or not mean.

    It really is astonishing to see that people still try to be friends with someone that is truely horrible to them. I think it's human nature to want to be liked by everyone but it seems that eventhough somone is mean to you then you try harder. This may not be the case for everyone but I do keep thinking back to Mean Girls. Eventhough she was mean to everyone they all still tried to be friends with her.

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  • imageBoyMom21:

    She probably has always been unpopular.  She discovered that the internet didn't know her past and she created the person she's always longed to be--popular, witty, and powerful.  It's a bad case of low self esteem.

    Yes, but what is interesting in the comments is that someone that went to high school with her made the comment that she always seemed popular in high school, was a cheerleader, and didn't appear to be picked on AT ALL.

    Which I find highly amusing. The way she describes herself in her post is as some sort of awkward geeky type that was always hiding behind her hair, trying to not be noticed.

  • Personally, I think the 'wanting to be friends with her' comes from Blair's popularity as it is now. I mean, basically, in the blogging world, Blair is 'famous'. People tend to want some sort of connection to famous people so that they can ride on said person's coattails. Make sense?
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