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Office Affair Drama
This is really quite a long story, I'll try to sum it up as much as possible to make it easier to follow.
About 2 years ago my boss hired X. After a few months it was pretty obvious that something was going on between them. My suspicions were confirmed last May when she confided in me that they did have an affair (both are married, he is now divorcing, but with someone new) but he ended it in Dec. 2009. While they were having an affair he made a new department for her to run which was at a different location. After a few months of her out there it was pretty obvious that she didn't know what she was doing, and that she couldn't keep up(she was not qualified for this job at all).
So my manager hired someone to take my position, as the admin. assitant, and moved me out to her location to help. While I've been out her I have learned that the reason she couldn't keep up with the work is because she is takng non-stop personal phone calls (I have actually witnessed her to be on an 1 1/2 long phone call, while a co-worker of ours waited for her to get final paperwork. She won't take any inititave to do things for herself. If she can't figure out how to do something, she expects me to do it. (she has been her almost two years, and what she asks me to do are things that she should have known for a long time for now) She won't answer the phone, the guys in the shop won't ask her to order parts because she'll say she'll do it then 3 days later they won't have what they need.
On top of it all I have to hear her complain non-stop. (we are the only 2 in the office) She'll go off about our manager ( the one she slept with) and how he promised her so much and he broke all of his promises to her and it's not fair. When he stops out to drop off payroll for at least two hours I have to hear how he's such an ass! Or I will have to hear how she "built" this department, and that it's hers. And how she stuck it out while having to work in a garage with no air in the middle of summer and how on top of it she had to take a 40% paycut. I could truely riddle this off word for word, since I've heard it so much. And it's not just me, she ripped the owner out about this. Then was shocked when she heard he wanted her fired. Somehow she was able to keep her job, I don't know how.
But lately she is constantly complaining, about either our manager, or how the guys in the shop don't listen to her, or about her personal life (I have actually heard an hour long screaming match she had on the phone with her husband) It is now to the point that I don't know what to do. I've talked to my manager, who said it's a delicate situation they're trying to now fire her, or so he says, but want to have all their ducks in a row. Because it has become quite obvious that she isn't capable of her job. There is no reason 2 people should be out here, I handled much more work at my orignial position, than our 2 jobs combined. I just don't know how much more of her negative attitude I can take.I try to ignore her, but she keeps talking. And when she drops the ball she'll blame it on me. It's just very frustrating. So I thought I would ask for some outside opinions on how I can handle this. I am to the point that I want to quit my job. but I have finally found a job that I am really good. So I feel like I have failed if I leave. But being around somebody with such a nasty, negative, bitter, attitude is really starting to wear on me.
Thanks for any of your opinions.
Re: Office Affair Drama
I am to the point that I want to quit my job. but I have finally found a job that I am really good. So I feel like I have failed if I leave.
I totally disagree. Find another job, stat. Even if it takes a while, you'll at least have that to focus on.
You didn't fail. You stuck it out for 2 years and now it's impacting your mental health. Get the heck out while you can.
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Total Ditto. I'm not sure what you've failed at, actually? You seem quite succesful to have put up with that bullshit.
Yikes! Too much going on there with affairs, personal info, slacking, etc. I'd be frustrated, too.
At my first job out of college, my boss was having an affair with my co-worker. This was a big no-no since they were both married and he was her direct boss. They were told to end it and they didn't. It went on for a long time and my boss was eventually demoted because of it. They both got divorced and it was very tense when they broke up. To the point of his ex-wife showing up to work and harassing my co-worker for breaking up her marriage. It was UGLY.