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You could cut the tension here with a knife
I was planning on hiring someone for a new position here. I told everyone in the office (all two plus a family member), last month. One of the employees came to me and said she was interested in it. We talked about it over the course of two or three weeks. Today we came to a conclusion and when we were done I let the rest of the office know. The other employee became very upset and said she would have liked the position and she feels slighted.
But she said nothing to me about it in all this time. I apologized that she feels that way. I don't think there is anything else I can do to help her. It's actually probably better because I don't think she would have been a good fit (to put it mildly) for this position. But she is brooding over it and has a pissed off look on her face.
Re: You could cut the tension here with a knife
I'm confused, so you may need to put letters or numbers with the different people.
Person A said she was interested in the job. Did you hire someone else and Person A is upset? Or did you hire Person A and Person B came from out of the blue to say she wanted the job?
Are you this person's supervisor?
If it's Person B who's upset, IMO it would be a good idea to sit down with her and explain that you had no idea she wanted the job, and went with someone who had expressed interest. And that if she wants a similar job in the future, you'd be happy to sit down and talk about what she needs to accomplish to make that happen.
If it's Person A who's upset, well, that's the breaks of small office life. She'll get over it.
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Person A said she was interested in the job. Did you hire someone else and Person A is upset? Or did you hire Person A and Person B came from out of the blue to say she wanted the job?
It's this. I did let her know that I had no idea she was interested. I will let her know that I am open to discussing other positions with her they arise.
Are you this person's supervisor?
I own the company, so yes.
If you do not feel that she would have been a great fit for the position anyway, I don't think you have really lost anything. She will get over it.
She'll get over it. She never stepped up and stated she was interested in the position. Even still, she wouldn't have been a good fit, so give it a few days and this will all blow over.
Congrats on picking up a new employee!
Don't worry, I'm working on it.
Get it on!
Totally agree with PP - she'll have to get over it. In business, you have to ask for what you want or you'll never get it. If you were honest about the fact that you wanted to hire this position (which it sounds like you were), and she didn't ask you about it, it's her fault.
I once attended a conference where the keynote speaker held up $100 and said, "Who in this room wants this $100 bill?" She asked the question a number of times. People in the audience nodded, raised their hands, etc. But after about the 3rd time of asking it, a woman from the audience got up, walked to the front of the room, and took it. The speaker was demonstrating that women don't ask for what they want and they definitely don't always take what they're being offered. That's a lesson some people have to learn the hard way.