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Update

Things have been quite difficult around here lately, but we are together as a family to make it through. Maybe sometime ill tell you the whole story of my dads passing. It was so hard for us all and its something i want to share at some point. It will be theraputic for me and i feel like you girls deserve to know. Since you are so very close to my heart.

My dads memorial service is on Thursday. It's going to be so hard. Sometimes i am just numb, im feeling lately like i have no tears left but i still want to cry. The happy and sad memories make me cry...i know that will get better, but it still sucks big time. Other times, i can cry for hours. I had to call his voicemail today to hear his voice. He was so hoarse the last few weeks b/c of his pain and weakness that I didnt get to hear it. I miss hearing his voice and hugging him most. I miss telling him how much i love him and hearing a response...."I love you too" "meemee" or "kimmy" or "sweetie pie"....except in dork fashion he would write it sweetie 3.14. He really was my kindred spirit....Oh how i miss him.

My dad was such a dork and a character....i'll tell you more about him sometime once im more stable. I posted his on my fb but if youre not friends with me, this will give you an idea of how he was. The magnet words on our fridge say the following that he wrote:

" Life is like a pole up your butt"

 How true is that. Especially now. Also, one of his passwords to his accounts was "CancerSucks". Oh man he still cracks me up after the fact.

I'll keep you girls updated and just wanted to express my sincere gratitude for helping me through this. I so appreciate it and i love you all so much


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  • Huge hugs to you Kim!!!
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  • Major hugs, also tons of thoughts and prayers.  You are so strong! 
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  • I totally agree that it sucks!  As someone who is 5 months ahead of you on this,  it does start to suck slightly less (or maybe just less often).

    Hang in there.

     PS my mom switched to my dad's cell phone just to keep his outgoing message :)  some days I smile, some days I just have to hang up

  • KIM! we all love you so, so much. i wish we all lived close together so we could all be with you right now hugging you so tight. this just absolutely breaks my heart :'( i'm so incredibly sorry, hun :( i'm glad you can come on here to us, because we are ALWAYS here to listen to you, and always thinking of you <3 

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  • Kim,

        Many thoughts and prayers to you and your family during this difficult time.  May your faith give you strength and courage as you continue to grieve.  I know the exact numb feeling you are having and it does get better.  I had that when my dad died six years ago and when a friend died four years ago.  It seems like the numbness will never go away, but it does.   The first weeks and months are the hardest.  The sadness gets better too.  I know losing my dad changed me and it helped me realize what people who are grieving go through and what to say and not to say.  I think people don't realize what it is like to lose a parent until it happens to them.  We are here for you.  Remember to take time for yourself during these difficult days.  Remember the happy times and that he is so proud of you.  It sounds like he was a wonderful dad and a terrific human being.  Please post the obit link when it is available.  I would like to read it.  Hang in there, Kim.

    Angela :-)

  • I'm so sorry you had to go through all this. Just remember - he is in a better place, and he will always be with you and watching over you. Try to focus on the good, happy and healthy times. Hugs and thoughts your way!
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  • Kim, since your dad was first diagnosed, I have been so inspired and awed by your strength and positive attitude for him and for the rest of your family. I can't even imagine how hard this is for you. I hope you can draw strength from us and that you're comforted by your family and loved ones right now. Your dad sounds like an amazing person. I'd love for you to share more about him when you feel up to it.
  • Kim,
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  What I am happy about is that he was able to be a part of your wedding and walk his daughter down the aisle.  My dad had heart troubles a while back and I always just wished he'd be able to dance with me on my wedding night.  

    Remember the memories. Talk about them often.  He's still with you, just in your heart. We'll be thinking about you Thursday.  If it's not too hard, we'd love to hear the details. We're here for you.

    "Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy."

    *hugs* 

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  • I am so sorry Kim.  I wish I could just give you a hug.  At least he is no longer in pain.  It sounds like he left quite an impression on you guys doing his time here.  I think that in that way, he will live on even though he is gone.

    I guess that all I have to say is don't be ashamed to cry.  Crying is a good thing.  And it will get easier.  The pain will probably never completely go away but it will lessen.  And it sounds like you have a good support system, which I am so glad to hear!  You will indeed get through this!

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  • I know this is a very hard thing to go through but that you are a very strong person.  Sometimes, it is okay to not be so strong though.  I just wanted to say how blessed you are to have had such a wonderful dad.  It brings tears to my eyes because I can tell how much he meant to you and your family.  That is such a wonderful blessing!  I hope that you can cherish his memory forever and be proud that he was such a good dad. 
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  • So sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better right now but you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • Kim I have been praying for you and your family! I'm glad you are all leaning on each other for support. I am thinking of you!

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