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Sudden sexual discomfort
Anyway, I'm engaged, been with the same partner for a year and half. Was on the pill until recently and we're now using condoms (hormonal birth control we found was causing my awful migraines and i hated how it made me feel).
Anywho, the last couple months (around the same time we switched BC methods) sex has been incredibly painful. Went in to my gyno, and she ruled out stds, ovarian cysts and even did a full pelvic ultrasound, everything structurally is in good working order.
She suggested that maybe I was allergic to the lube on the condoms, which is ridiculous because I've been using the same kind of condoms on and off for the last 5 years. Regardless, we switched to a different kind of condom with no lube. Still in lots of pain.
I feel aroused so its not a psychosomatic issue, I am able to self-lubricate, its just that penetration is terribly painful. As you can imagine, this is causing stress in our relationship.
As my gyno has pretty much said, well everything is working fine, idk what's wrong I feel upset and overwhelmed. I enjoy sex, but right now its awful. It occurred to me today that if i can't figure out what's wrong I won't even be able to enjoy sex on my honeymoon 
So, my theory is that for some reason or another the vaginal muscles are very very tight, so I just ordered some medical vaginal dialators that will hopefully help relax the muscles.
Anyone had similar issues? Or any success with dialators? Sorry for such a long message, I'm just feeling so helpless.
Re: Sudden sexual discomfort
yeah that was the first test they did when I went in was a UA for infection as well as the pelvic exam. at that point when i went in i had been dealing with the pain for about a month, so you would think if the culprit was infection it would have been detectable.
i've debated going back to my gyno but basically how it was left was that she didn't know what else it could be.
Have you considered a latex allergy? Try non-latex condoms ad see if that helps.
thanks ladies. I'm gonna see how it goes with the dialators, but go in and see my gyno again to double check and rule out infection.
she had mentioned physical therapy and hearing it echoed in some of your messages that sounds like I may need that.
UPDATE:
Alright, so I went back to my gyno today (with the wonderful advice/encouragement from all of you) and had another exam in which my gyno swore up and down I didn't have an infection. Low and behold she calls me in an hour with my labs and tells me I have a bacterial infection AND a yeast infection. I had zero symptoms other than the pain during intercourse. No itching, no burning w/urination, abnormal discharge, nothing. So strange.
Anyway, thank you to those of you who encouraged me to go back to the doctor. In a week I will hopefully have both of those cleared up and soon be back to having painfree/less painful sex.
Again, THANK YOU THANK YOU