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She's gone (warning: sad)

Baby Sofie passed away this morning at 5am cradled in her parents' arms after 14 wonderful, snuggly hours at home. Her mom's note today paints the most amazingly serene picture, so different from her 20 days of hospital tubes and machines. 

Part of me is beyond mad. Sh!t like this is not supposed to happen. Sh!t like this is not supposed to happen to good people like Lori. She never even had a chance to hear her baby cry, or see her open her eyes. It fvcking sucks. It's not fair.

But another part of me realizes that Sofie has made an incredible difference in this world in just 20 days. She has brought together old friends, shown us all how deep love runs, made us all think about things a little differently. I cherish the snuggly moments with my kids even more. I haven't snapped at my toddler in over a week - I can't. I can't get that mad at him for being a kid, not when Lori never got that chance with Sofie. I don't groan and moan when Maddy wakes up at 6:20... I embrace her and enjoy every moment. 

I hope I can honor Sofie with my days. She deserves to be honored. I feel honored to have been allowed to share in her life through her mother, who has expressed her feelings so honestly and amazingly, and I hope her words will help to bring her peace as time goes on.

All this from a little girl I never even met. Be at peace now, Sofie, until you and your parents can continue your snuggles sometime down the road. 

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Re: She's gone (warning: sad)

  • Very eloquently said Michele.
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  • so sad..thinking of her and her family. 
  • My heart breaks for that family. I am so happy that they got to spend some time at home with her before she passed. No parent should ever out live their child. They will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers during this extremly difficult time.
  • So sad.  My thoughts & prayers are with her & her family.
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  • Poor little Sofie. Thanks for the update. I cant even imagine.
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  • I am so sorry, Michele. Sofie's parents and family, and friends, and everyone who her little life has touched in her 20 days are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • Michele

    The thought of the situation is just so unbearable.  You, Sofie and her family are in my thoughts & prayers

  • so sad, sending thoughts and prayers to the family.
  • this breaks my heart :(  sofie and her family will be in my thoughts. we should all hug our loved ones a little tighter in sofie's honor.

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  • Rest is peace, Sofie - you were loved. 

    *hugs* Michele.  I'm glad that you're able to take something positive away from this experience.  I know you've been having a rough time and I'm glad this has given you some perspective.  It's amazing what an impact such a brief life can have.

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  • So very sad!  I'm so sorry.  :(
  • It's so incredibly awful. I hate that her poor family didn't get to have all the awesome and crazy moments with her that they were supposed to have. I'm so sorry Michele. It's a tragedy. 
  • so sorry, michele.  i've been avoiding your posts because i just couldn't bear to read something so sad.  i'm so glad that you have found a way to make something so tragic into something much more meaningful.
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