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Time issues with new girlfriend
I've recently got together with a woman I have known for years. One of the biggest issues is our diffences in planning things She likes to plan things out where as with my job I can't plan (I work a 15/6 swing shift in the oilpatch, and quite often I work my days off due to demand), especially from mid-Sept. - April (our busiest time of year). We have talked about it and she says she understands, but everytime she wants to do something I usually end up working (and she ends up PO'd). Any advice would be appreciated on this topic.
Re: Time issues with new girlfriend
Is working on days off optional on your part, or is it required by your employer?
If it is optional, I'd be POd if my boyfriend kept ditching me to work extra shifts when we didn't have much time together as it was (a few days every third week?). If you are not in a place where you value spending time with your girlfriend, then maybe you shouldn't have one right now, or maybe she's not the one for you.
What the... how is it not required and not optional?
Regardless, if you don't have time to have a girlfriend, then don't have a girlfriend. You can't expect a relationship to thrive on pretty much nothing.
I think what was meant is that its not required by employer but sense he doesn't work much for 6 months out of the year he needs the extra income while available and therefore it is not optional to him.
I agree with this. There are certain fields of work that can be really demanding. OP, check my SN. You know I deal with an H with a very demanding job. Sit down with her and explain that you have to work as often as you can now because the hours will be scarce in a few months. You have to do what is best for you and your life. She needs to be able to go with the flow. If she can't do that, it might be time to let her go before you are too emotionaly invested in the relationship. Good luck.