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WWYD??
I stopped by my parents to drop off a few things and my brother asked to run and get shamrock shakes from mcdonalds. Cool.
Once in the car he says that he needs to tell me something and I cant tell mom. Yikes! Well turns out... he got a tattoo. Now, normally this would not be a big deal since he is 18, however it has always been a widely known rule in the house that we were not to get any piercings or tattoos until we moved out of my mom's house. Ok fair enough, her house, her rules.
Well obviously my brother didn't get the memo and is now hiding it from her until his spring break in March. I said that he should just man up to what he did and tell her, but his doesn't want to. I know she will call me once she finds out, but do I lie and say I didn't know, tell her I did know, or just tell her now and get the kid in trouble?
Re: WWYD??
Stand up for something you believe in.
This exactly. Just leave him to tell her. It's not your responsibility or your business. I just think a tattoo should be the least of a parents worries...
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Stand up for something you believe in.
I never understood her reasoning for no tats or piercings either, but then again I am a huge chicken and probably couldn't get one done anyways!
I think it depends on how close you are with your brother.
If you cherish your relationship with him and want him to be able to trust you in the future, don't tell her. I shared something with one of my brothers that was very personal and when he told my mom, our relationship was never the same.
If he tells her and she asks if you knew, then you can say yes. He told you, so obviously he wanted you to know. Once she knows, all bets are off.
i definitely wouldnt tattle on him, but when/if your mom asks i would just say yes.
i get that you want him to tell her, but he has to do it on his own time and also? you are more mature by #1 being a female and #2 by being older so youre able to see the sense in just telling her now and he isnt.
it will work out fine. in the grand scheme of things, a tattoo is NBD and they will all get over it eventually.
I agree. If I was 8, I would tattle. Once we hit our pre-teens, my parents actually told us that they would rather us bind together against them (my parents) than go against eachother for non-life threatening issues. There have also been a few instances where my parents have asked us to speak with another sibling about something since they would most likely listen to us than them.
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Your brother is an adult -- no need to tattle. If she finds out, she finds out, but definitely don't lie to her. Its not your problem.
updated 10.03.12