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BR: Who did you tell?
I can't even believe I'm writing a baby related post. So H approached me a couple of days ago to let me know he is ready to try for a baby. We've been on the fence for some time and I told him when he was ready to let me know. I'm excited, stressed, nervous, optimistic, pessimistic all jumbled into one. I'm shocked b/c I promised him we could go to France for his 40th to see a couple of stages of the Tour de France. It's his lifelong dream to go. He said he'd rather have a child by his 40th and that one day we will go. The Tour will always be there, but now's the time to try.
B/c I'm so nervous about the outcome, I told a close friend who became a mother later in life like I will be, if successful. I feel she would be a great support for me in the coming months/year. She's been through what I'm about to embark on.
When you and H decided it was time did you confide in anyone in particular? If, so, who and why? I know it's kind of awkward telling someone, "Hey, I'm having unprotected sex with my husband! Hooray!" J/K, you get the gist.
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We haven't told anyone...unofficially I kind of told my mom that we're not NOT trying..we're just kind of seeing what happens. So she knows that I'm off BC and that we're just going with it. If I tell friends they'll all start watching/asking/talking so I don't want the added "pressure" even if they're doing it in a good natured way, ya know?
I have no intension of telling anyone else precisely b/c of this. The friend I did tell is extremely discreet and perfect to talk to about my fears since she's been through it all before.
Only one person knows. I told my BFF just last week because I had a bit of a breakdown.
But I also swore her to secrecy. We don't want anyone to know unless absolutely necessary. H was actually a little mad that I told her.
We didn't tell anyone. I just didn't really like the idea of telling people that "we're trying". To me, it's sounds a little weird like "weird having mad crazy sex all of the time...sooo...watch out!".
After a few months though (maybe 6) of trying secretly, I did tell my Mom and a few of my very close friends. Mainly because it was so frustrating and I wanted to unload.
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I've been thinking about this a lot lately because H and I will be trying in a few months, and I'm pretty sure my BFF and I happen to be on the same timeline, pretty much. I'm not sure I want to really tell people, but it will be hard sometimes to keep it in. I definitely don't want to tell parents, sisters-in-laws, but it will be hard to keep it in for a while.
If I was in your shoes, I would have probably done the same thing (told someone who went through something really similar).
My DH doesn't get it...he apparently thinks we should tell the world that we'll be bangin' like crazy. Um...not so much, thanks.
We didn't tell anyone in our family. I mentioned it on the board here and there but I still felt weird talking about it because I felt like I would jinx our chances of being successful. I did tell my best friend because well, I tell her pretty much everything.
When family or other friends asked us we just kept telling people we were thinking of trying next year, meaning 2011 at the time. So everyone was pretty surprised when we announced we were having a baby.
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Two of my friends knew we were trying, and a few coworkers knew we weren't avoiding (I work closely with 3 other girls in my department so that stuff comes up.) My mom also knew that we weren't avoiding, but I think that's about it.
Most people were surprised when I announced the pregnancy (even my mom and dad, for whatever reason) but two of my coworkers said they'd known I was pregnant practically as soon as I found out because I stopped bringing my coffee thermos into work every day. (I should've filled it with decaf, I didn't think about that being a dead giveaway.)
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