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MIL Overnight...1st Time
Here's the thing, we recently bought our first home, and moved in (meaning that we moved the bed in) last night. My MIL and SIL have decided to come up for the weekend...because this is when it fits in their schedules. That being said, we have to move everything on Friday, and we have to prep for overnight guests in the meantime. On top of it all, they have never been to visit...we're feeling a lot of pressure here.
What are the major things we should have ready so that they feel comfortable? All that comes to mind for me is a lot of alcohol.
Re: MIL Overnight...1st Time
If this weekend isn't a good time for YOU AND YOUR DH, I'm not sure why you didn't tell them "sorry, this weekend won't work. Let's figure out another time for you to come visit."
Anyway, you just need the basics - something for them to sleep on (whether that is a bed or air mattress), towels and toiletries.
I wouldn't want guest to come for a overnight visit when I'm not even settled in my own house yet! But they're coming anyway, so I would have the above and maybe snack foods and some drinks.
You're way better than me because that wouldnt happen at my house.
First, you mention "we're feeling alot of pressure here..." - why isn't your husband saying something to his own family to the tune of "this isn't a good weekend?" - I don't understand the idea of just going along with something (in your own home no less) when it doesn't work for you. That's just insane to me.
I think its pretty rude of them to come for a visit when you arent even fully moved in and unpacked, but hey - everyone is different.
I agree with the pp's in that of course the basics works when guests come. Someplace to sleep, sheets, blankets, towels..etc. Id do take out or go out to eat, no cooking obviously. Get some good wine? LOL
But if I were you, I wouldnt go in with the ASSumption that they are going to help you unpack anything.
Good luck to you.
To be perfectly honest, since your boxes just arrived, you are totally off the hook for "hosting". This sounds more like a work weekend than a visit. For them to expect to be hosted is absurd. Just order pizzas and expect them to do some work to help you unpack.
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1.) They don't get to decide your schedule.
2.) Tell them, "We'd love to have you/see you, but as you can imagine, things are hectic with the move and this weekend won't for us - thanks for understanding. "..
3.) Feel no guilt.
If you and you're DH are comfortable with having them come for your first weekend, then good for you! If they're coming to help, I doubt they're expecting fine dinning and their sheets to be turned down. Buy alcohol, extra paint brushes, and take out. If they expect more...tell them you'll let them know a weekend that works better for you guys!