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TMI Tuesday?
We do these over on my local now, so I thought I'd pass it along here.... if anyone is still around 
How's the married sex life? Better or worse than before the wedding? More/less often? More/less... adventurous?
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I've had zero sex drive for quite a while now so thats frustrating to me because I never WANT it - I do however always cooperate when H wants it so we still have sex at least 4 times a week - he still seems to enjoy it even though I'm not 100% into it, but I hate that I dont have that urge anymore - I'm convinced its my birth control, but last time I changed my pill it was aweful (think emotional, moody, crying for no reason 24/7)
I'm open to any suggestions, btw the pill I'm on is Ortho-tricyclen, the pill I switched to briefly that made me a wreck was yaz.
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We've both been a bit stressed with changing careers, but I feel that we still do it the same amount. It's been getting less adventurous as time has gone on ... but I'm saying that's just because we have tried a bit of everything and have our preferred positions. (haha, TMI!)
Linds: not sure if this is an option for you, but I'm on Mirena (IUD) and it is magic. No periods for me, no cramps, no side effects whatsoever... It's really wonderful and I highly recommend it. The only problem is you would have NO idea if you were to get pregnant. But it is highly, highly unlikely with this type of BC. I just take a test every now and again if for some reason I'm freaking out (feel nauseated for a couple mornings or something).
Married 11/6/10
I was on Yaz briefly and it was AWFUL. My best results were when I was on Ortho-Tricyclen-Lo when I was 18-20. Last year, I was on Loestrin 24 Fe and then switched to Mircette. Both made me not want sex at all. In fact, I was pretty much curled up into a ball on the couch. H thought I hated him because I never wanted it. Now, we're doing the whole natural family planning thing and my sex drive has gone through the roof. So, I am convinced it was my BC making me not want sex. Keep trying different ones ... I heard the nuvaRing is good for girls who get crazy emotional on BC, but I was never on it.
H and I definitely have more sex now that we're married. However, since we're doing NFP, there are periods of abstinence. But the sex is totally hot after the abstinence period is over, so I think the sex is much better. I always had guilt in the back of my mind that we were sinners (years of Catholic school)... Now that's totally gone, so I can definitely enjoy it more.
We're in the "less than before" category... and it's more me, I think - kinda like Linds. I switched to Yaz because Ortho Tricyclen was having the same effect on me, maybe a year ago. It was great for a while, but lately, not so much. I just don't feel like it... and I think the DH notices, because he hasn't really been initiating either... And it's getting me down too. But, we aren't really the "let's talk about IT" kinda people... so hopefully it'll just work itself out... Sigh.
Are we the only ones having sex more??
To be honest, I doubt it's because we're now married, though. I went off BCP the week before the wedding, because of my migraines. (My doctor refused to refill my prescription, because I had the little auras with my migraines which puts you at a high risk for stroke at a young age... oops.)
Anyway. That has made a world of difference. Linds, I sounded just like you. I WANTED to do it, but I didn't want to do it, if that makes sense.
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THIS sums up my attitude perfectly. Maybe I'll talk to my doc about it...
Hmm - I get migraines fairly often - what do you mean when you say "little auras" - I may need to look into this, although being off birth control scares me for some reason.
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Rachel I'll have to look into this - I know when I first heard about IUD I was interested but I read somewhere that the IUD was for women who already had a child and were looking to prevent future pregnancies - I must have read wrong...I'm def looking into this - thanks!!
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For some reason, the IUD has become the birth control of choice for mothers...
However, by no means can it only be used by those who have already given birth. I think I know why you heard that though. In a small percentage of women, the IUD can be expelled - not in a painful way, just like, "wow, my BC just popped out." And for those who have given vaginal birth (no idea if that is the correct term), their cervix actually gets smaller after birth or something and it's less likely for them to expel the device.
Anyway, my doctor saw no problems with me using it and hey, it hasn't popped out yet, so likely never will. Also, I always forget that Mirena affects everyone differently and I just happened to be one of the lucky ones who never has bleeding (periods). Def talk with your doctor for your personal medical record, because I've read that (just like any other form of BC), it can cause emotional swings in some women and a host of other problems. But like I said, I see no effects and it's convenient that I don't have to take a pill every day (and that I no longer have periods!).
Feel free to message me if you want to talk more on this. I'd love to go into more depth about this BC option and maybe even talk to a few of my friends whoa re using it to see if they experience any side effects.
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It's about the same, so I guess I can't complain... I was hoping of course that it would be way better after wedding planning stress was gone, but then one stress is replaced by another.
BCPs can definitely have a big impact on sex drive and everything else. I tried Yaz briefly... after one cycle I called my doctor because I experienced the only rapid weight gain I've ever had and felt generally uncomfortable and miserable. Now I have Levora, which works for me, although since BCPs are all about regulating hormones different ones will probably suit different people.
Lol. I don't know how to answer this. It's the same as before: abstinence. Apparently I am meant to be a nun lol. But let me explain. I have gotten some serious fertility and sex education thanks to my constant exposure to the medical community lately.
1. I was just at my physical therapist's office today. I have a condition where the pelvic floor (the muscles that surround and support your pelvis) is very tight and stressed out. I go to a women's health center for neuromuscular retraining of those muscles because they lock up so badly and yes prevent intimacy (in my case prevents 100 percent but some women just experience pain etc). The condition is very treatable but just takes time and phys therapy. Anyway, my therapist specializes in women's issues and was just telling me today about research on hormones and BC. She told me that women who are on hormonal BC for extended periods of time (especially 15 years or more) come in for a lot of problems.
It affects the quality/health of your tissue, your pH (which can lead to increased infections) etc. Just something to consider.
2. I also have a mediocre libido -- side effect of a hormonal imbalance that we are treating with very specified injections of a natural hormone on certain days (different than BC). I am noticing quite a difference and feeling much better than I was.
Believe it or not, I am actually a fairly healthy woman lol. I just happened to get slammed with two treatable but freakin' annoying issues that are creating some temporary frustrations.
3. Linds, if these BC options don't work out, I highly recommend NFP. Charting your fertility has no side effects, is cost-effective (basically free) and can be quite accurate.
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Linds - BC always made me have zero drive. It was awful. Totally defeats the purpose!!!
We don't have much sex these days, I am so tried I am in bed asap after work. And he was scared lol! but I think he is over that now
orrrr does it? It keeps you from getting pregnant
Rachel- I might have to ask about the IUD next time I go into the doctor. I thought the same thing as Linds, that it was only if you'd already given birth.
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How's the married sex life? Better or worse than before the wedding? More/less often? More/less... adventurous?
Ok, I'm going to sound like such a horrible wife, but it was absolutely amazing during the honeymoon and shortly after that.... then... I got pregnant... it all went downhill from there. I did it a couple times for him, but I'd bleed after and that would freak my out and I am just never in the mood or I am achey, cranky, moody, and sick.. so needless to say, no nookie lately. I know dh wants to and he'll hint that he's "happy/horny" but I am just not in the mood.
I want to be, I'm just not.
Could I suggest nuvaring? that seemed to be great for me and I had my sex drive and I regulated better and was not nearly as moody... not sure if it's exactly for you, but it may be worth a try?
Oops! I just saw your question to me about migraines, Linds. Auras are those little flashing lights you get before/during a migraine. Not everyone gets them (in fact, I only get/got them with the bad migraines.)
I compared them to when you get your picture taken with a flash camera. You know how after you close your eyes, you still see the little flashing lights? Yeah. I'd get those for a few hours off and on before a migraine would hit. Anyway, if you have those AND are on bc, it warns of a serious increase in your chance of an early stroke. So once my doctor heard I was getting the auras, she told me to stop taking my BCP immediately (like, not even finish out the month.)
Here's one of the first articles I could find on it:
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/10/091028090654.htm
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