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My weekend is off to a VERY creepy start (Long & PIP)
So let me preface this story by saying that my only plan for last night was to come home from work, rent a movie, and order pizza for like the first time in probably six months. I was lazy & just wanted to relax. Instead, I got a text message from Clinton during the day saying we'd been invited to go to a Mexican food place with a bunch of people who work in his lab. I said sure, assuming we'd just come back here after dinner & relax. But about halfway through dinner, Clinton decided it would be fun to invite EVERYONE at dinner back to our apartment to have some drinks & watch a movie. I could have KILLED him. I guess I can't be too mad b/c I hadn't explicitly told him I wanted to have a quiet night at home, but who does that? If I was thinking of bringing a dozen people home, I'd run it by my husband first.
Next thing I know, there are 11 biologists and a three-legged Jack Russell named Zoe in my apartment (who brings a dog to someone else's house?!). It was insane. I had to take pictures on my phone.
Everyone was drinking, and even though I know most of them pretty well, I'm not a big fan of my home being full of drunk people, so I carried around the same bottle all night, staying sober & just kind of keeping an eye on things. The last thing I wanted was for anything to get messed up or broken. The only two people I'd never met before were these two women who everyone else in the lab works underneath. They're 32 and 35, both married with kids, and they're the boss of everyone else who was over here. They were talking about marriage & kids & pretty much complaining about married life, telling me I'd understand in a few years when I'm "miserable & trapped" too. I was so annoyed, but I figured telling my husband's superiors to shut up would be a bad idea. I was talking to someone else for like five minutes & somehow the two of them ended up in my bedroom in front of my big 3.5'x6' mirror, COMPLETELY naked, talking about how their bodies are "wrecked" after having babies. It was shocking. My apartment turned into the twilight zone. Why would you go to someone's house you'd never been to before & get naked in someone's bedroom with the door open? So effing weird. I didn't say a word, because honestly, what can you say to that?
By the time everyone left, the apartment was a mess & I was exhausted. I wasn't pissed necessarily. More annoyed. But Clinton knows I was irritated at him for bringing everyone over without talking to me first, so he promised to clean everything up in the morning & we went to sleep. I woke up at 4:14 because my eye REALLY hurt. Clinton was tossing & turning like a lunatic & managed to back hand me right in the face. This is the second time this has happened in the last year. Check this out.
This is what I looked like when I woke up this morning. (Don't judge my unruly hair & eyebrow! I seriously need to do something about that mess.) Also, I somehow managed to wake up with a sore throat & a serious case of man voice. Thank GOD I didn't drink more than one beer last night. If I were hungover on top of everything else, I'd probably kill someone. Needless to say, I'm not taking any crap from anyone today. I'm laying on the couch watching a movie & have no intentions of getting up any time soon. I may even make DH order pizza & go pick it up so I don't have to cook. He feels so terribly bad that I think he'd go pick up whatever I want at this point. Poor guy. 
Anyone else do anything fun last night?
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Re: My weekend is off to a VERY creepy start (Long & PIP)
excuse my while I pick my jaw up off the keyboard.
Now I completely understand your FB status. wow.
Wow, that's a nice shiner. And Clinton has some weird coworkers. I don't really understand people who b!tch so much about married life. If they really wanted to do something about it they can, they aren't truely trapped. Both Nick's parents and mine are happily married (which doesn't mean they don't fight, argue, have disagreements, and get annoyed with each other, but at they end of the day they are happier together than they are apart) and so I know not all marriages are like that and I get annoyed with the perpetuation of the stereotype. And to stand in front of a mirror nude in somebody else's house is extremely rude. I would be putting my foot done and telling Clinton that those two will never be invited to ya'lls apt again.
Clinton also needs to figure out a solution to his nighttime flailing.
Have fun vegging and I hope you eye feels better soon!
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You can't make stuff like that up! Sorry your weekend has been so bizarre.
I have to say, though, that little three legged doggie is stinkin' ADORABLE!
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Agreed. I was eating tortilla chips & giving her tiny pieces. Definitely my favorite party guest.
And Allie, those women are NOT coming back. I'm not going to make a big production of it, but I think Clinton learned his lesson last night. And even if they were welcome, I doubt they'd be interested. They were really really drunk, so I can only imagine how mortified they were when they woke up this morning.
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What's LittleMissNewlywed Cooking?
Oh My Geeee!
That is insane. I can't even believe this. My draw dropped to the floor. I asked DH who the heck takes their clothes off with the door open - he actually knew somebody.
Mind=blown.
I'm sorry this happened. Poor thing.
Ditto. Wow.
Well ok. That sucks, and seems a little unnecessary to say, but ok.
He didn't make dinner plans without asking me. He told me we'd been invited & asked if I wanted to go, and I said sure. Granted, I was ticked he invited everyone over without talking with me, but if that's all I have to be mad at my husband about, I count myself lucky.
This post wasn't a "I'm so mad at my husband" vent. It was more, "The last 24 hours of my life have been VERY strange, and I figured I'd share with you guys." I have nothing in the world against you Shasta, and I'm certainly not looking for another appearance from the drama llama. I just don't think it was very constructive for you to post that you "dislike" my husband. I'm sure no other wife on the board would like reading that about their DH either. Just my two cents.
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I've heard other women on here complain about their husbands doing things without running it by their wife many times...I just think that was a little harsh, Shasta.
Anywho, the funniest part of everything was "did anyone else do anything fun last night?" I cannot top that story lol!
How is this: Right before I left for work, there was a cop in front with a guy on a bicycle and the cop's dog was barking like craaaazy.
Not as interesting haha, sorry.
I was relating the story to Ross, and here's his input:
Me: So they're at dinner, and Clinton decided to invite ALL of them over to their apartment.
Ross ::ohshit face::
(he knows how I am about people showing up at the apartment without notice. I'm a bit lazy with housework, and I need to straighten and sweep before I can show our place)
Me: and they're standing in front of the mirror NAKED talking about how having kids wrecked their bodies. Who does that?!
Ross: who does that in someone else's house?!
What a craaaaazy night you had. And that stinking Clinton and his flailing! I vote strap him down at night... which could be nice on more than one level ::lecherous eyebrow waggle::
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I agree with everything Shasta has posted. I only saw her posts with seriousness and concern. Not joking like everyone else.
Even though you agreed to go to the dinner, the people coming over wasn't brought up to you at all.
I personally take face banging seriously. Anytime I see someone with a bruised up face, it's not something to joke about. Regardless if it is a result from night flailing. That needs some attention so you don't have anything else happen to you.
You may say that you weren't venting her to say you were mad at your husband, but you did say that you were in the OP.
Is this really going to be a drama thread?
Really??
Um, I don't think it's even close to a drama thread. I think people are giving input on a message board. Is that not what message boards are for? I wasn't aware everyone had to give pleasant, joking responses without taking into the possible seriousness of certain situations. Some are viewing this as more than a, "Haha, I can't believe this happened" kind of post simply because past posts regarding her husband seem to also be in a negative light. I have nothing against her or her husband, but if you don't want people to give honest input regarding something like this, then leave this kind of stuff between you and your husband.
Just my opinion.
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Jena, I told the story to Scot and got the same reaction...
All the husbands in the world are thinking - "Oh no, Brother, oh no"
My friends bother is the kind of guy that will get naked in front of strangers. I'm surprised he hasn't done jail time. He's married with 3 kids too. My friend got kicked out of just about every spot in Chicago during his bachelor party activities for his brother's inability to keep his clothes on. Good times!
Sarah, all I'm asking you to do is this:
If your sister or best friend told you all the same stories about her husband that you tell us about Clinton, what would you think of him? What would you advise her to do?
I don't know you or your husband from Adam, and if this was an isolated incident I might think it's just a quirky story. But honey, this is like, story 18 about how Clinton kinda threw your feelings under the bus.
I know you're not liable to take my advice because I'm (gasp) "one of them," but your case is one that I seriously find myself concerned with. I dunno. Take it or leave it I guess. I really hope things start getting better for you.
J
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This is so bizarre!!
Also, I would take some of the responses about Clinton w/a grain of salt as after all, even though we're all "friends" we don't know you or Clinton IRL, how your relationship works or how you interact. I know we all use this board to vent and also to occasionally "show off" how sweet/awesome our DH's our, but it's obviously (and unfortunately) common for people to remember the good over the bad. Essentially, I'm just saying that I wouldn't take others responses to heart, unless you do think there is something to be worried/talk to Clinton about. We hear the "bad" here and all think "ohmygosh!" But I'm sure for every one vent you share on here there are hundreds of things your could rave about, but obviously that'd get a bit annoying/repetitive :O)
That being said...how awkward if work going to be for Clinton on Monday?! lol
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You're kidding right?That's hysterical and the puppy's cute!
A. that really sucks for the lack of warning/verifying with you....but where it went from there is rediculous! a three legged dog....naked bosses.....I agree with hannah....good luck to clinton monday (tuesday?) when he goes to work!
In all seriousness, I'm glad you're ok, and I hope clinton can figure out his sleep shanannigans....We just dont want to see you hurt! I hope that he also will figure out how to pause and ask permission before inviting people to your home....even just pulling you aside would have made you feel better i think...I cant believe someone brought the dog...what if you had pets/things that couldn't be around pets?
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hey sara (and everyone else),
ive been MIA on this board (and ALL the boards) for a long time since my med school schedule recently changed and all i do is work, but i do try to check in from time to time.
i, too, am a little worried about this dynamic. i dont know you or clinton, so you can take this or leave it as you will. it seems, though, that you are in a tough situation where, if i remember correctly, you dont know too many people where you live, and a lot of your social stuff has to do with clinton and his work, right? that said, maybe the precedent of him setting up your social stuff has been created -- but that doesnt mean it should/have to continue. it also doesnt mean that he should ever make plans without letting you know.
i think that what happens when we get married is that we have to transition from being "people" to being a "team." thats hard to do at the beginning, but it means that little decisions, like inviting people over, etc, need to get past both team members.
when i think about this in relation to some of the other stories youve relayed about him, i think you guys might want to consider some ground rules for communication and decision making. it seems infantile, but none of us are born knowing how to be married, so its helpful to have some tools to use to create some acceptable boundaries.
sounds like a crappy night. i hope you guys can work it out.
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