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just reported 8 year old nieces FB page
So I'm feeling guilty but I just "reported" my 8 year old nieces Facebook page. Her 16 year old sister (who is a big handful right now as she is getting in trouble with both her parents and at school) created it for her. I just thought there is NO way an 8 year old should have an open public FB account. Way too many scary creeps out there. I told my sister about it three months ago and she hasn't done anything about it. Do you think I did the right thing?
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Re: just reported 8 year old nieces FB page
Yep.
As you said, one never knows.
You did the right thing. Especially since you told your sister about it, and she didnt see fit to protect her own children from potential predators. FYI, FB is for 18 and up.
There's no reason to expose children to an adult geared website. Though, I have to say - there are SO many children's pages on there, and they put their age on as 18 - FB should have something in place to police this, but what and how?
FB will probably remove the page, and your niece will probably build her sister another one...tough fight...
Exactly why you'll never know what your kids are up to.
And there are many more SM sites besides FB -- there's HiFive, MySpace and a smattering of others; you'll never know where your kids are or what sites they are using.
I know, when we are blessed with kids I think I'm going to lock them in the house with no cell phone and no internet!! JK, I know that isn't possible. But I can imagine why some parents feel that way.
Smart parents monitor their kids computer use.
I'm sorry that these parent's aren't that bright.
Amen to that! There's a lot of trash in the real world and on the internet. You can't guard against everything, but being involved and a part of your kids' lives will help them make good choices.
No, you only have to be 13 to be on FB.
OP, I think you did the right thing. I don't think that it's ok for kids to lie about their age to get on a social site of any kind. There's too much risk out there. I hesitate about 13 year olds being on FB, let alone younger.
I think somewhere on their page is a "report" button, you have to fill out a short form with the information that you know. I don't think your name is attached to it, but I really have no idea how it works as this is my first time reporting someone. I just couldn't let it go on any longer.
Exactly this. My oldest son has an account, even though he is 1 year shy of the 13 year old age requirement. His entire class has one, and kids in younger classes too. I allowed him to sign up for one, with the understanding that I have his username and password, and that I will log on daily, to check what is going on, what he is posting, read his chat history, etc. etc. There has never been one thing wrong with what he is posting (90% of the time his hockey team mates discuss games and practices...) but the minute I see anything inappropriate, it is gone. (and this goes for after he turns 13 this summer, I don't care how old he is!) And he is not allowed to have any adults on his friend list. One of my aunts requested him be a friend, and I called her and told her I was the one declining it, not him.
While you probably did the right thing reporting her, if her parents really don't care, she can simply set up another one using a hotmail account and a false name.
I actually did follow up with my sister right before I reported it. She does not have a facebook account, she's never been on it, she never monitor's her teenage daughters messed up facebook pages much less her 8 year old's. If the 16 year old sister was a good kid, responsible and cared about her siblings/parents, I wouldn't have cared so much. But when my 16 year old niece is facebooking about sex, drugs, running away, drinking, beating people up...I don't think it's appropriate for my 8 year old niece to have her same friends on facebook and take part in all those discussions. And the 8 year old's page is open to the public so anyone can view her photos, address, etc. I don't think my sister has any idea the trouble an open profile can create for a little girl. And I grew tired of my warnings falling on deaf ears.
We got along without all of that sh!t.
And i still say kids need neither a cell phone, social network sites or the interwebs.
It was a very very big deal if you were a teen and you had your own private landline in your room. If you didn't, you used the house phone -- and your phone time was limited each night. We were able to use the phone for maybe an hour or so each night.
I remember when car phones were for the extremely well to do -- and I remember when those phones were the size of a shoe box.