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Sex during periods?
I have a bit of an odd "problem" with FH. Ever since we started having sex, he won't come anywhere NEAR me (sexual-wise) during the week of my period. Now, I could understand that if I weren't on BCP, because I have a ridiculously heavy flow if i'm not taking the pill. But when I'm on the pill, my periods are so light, and sometimes I'll have a period so light that I didn't even need to use a tampon/pantyliner/etc. But he still refuses to have sex with me AT ALL, if i'm on the placebo pill week, whether i'm bleeding or not. Just in case it matters, neither one of us have any religious convictions that frown upon that, it's just that he apparently thinks it's "nasty". I've had sex during my period before and it's not any more nasty than usual, sometimes you can't even tell.
Has anyone else had this problem with their S.O.? I think he might be having some misconceptions about what is actually happening during my period, thinking that I have blood just pouring out of me or something, but he doesn't believe me when I try to explain or tell him that that's not the case. Thoughts?
Re: Sex during periods?
My hubby doesn't like it that much (says it feels different to him), but he has grown to do it more since we've been together. He grew up with brothers and didn't really know ANYTHING about it, so I've taught him a bit about how it works exactly and I think that's helped make him more comfortable. Sometimes he gets so horny that he doesn't care, sometimes we fool around in other ways too. I've told him since the beginning of our relationship that me getting my period is awesome, because it means 2 things: I'm not pregnant, and blow jobs!
Have you talked to him about it? Maybe have him TRY it and tell you how it bothers you?
Honestly, if he's that grossed out, I'd be worried about how he will deal with other bodily functions when you have kids!
Well, I avoid sex during my period except for wedding night. I waited too long d*^n it! So, he would not have a problem having sex with me while on my period but I would because of the added smell and mess made in the bed. (My flow is sort of heavy)
Just explain that you have a light flow and that he would never know the difference. Good communication is key. Good luck!
I DO try to explain to him that I have such a light flow he probably wouldn't notice it, but he doesn't believe me! I guess he thinks that women just have like gallons of blood just pouring out of their vajayjays every month or something, which is hilarious to me because he grew up in a house with his mother and two sisters. You'd think he'd have SOME clue... but I guess not. Then again, he's shown himself to be pretty backwards-minded about sex and such, because he grew up in such an ultra-conservative family. Not in everything, but some things. I guess this is one of those things.
I have the opposite situation... It grosses me out and my fiance is more than happy to get some then. And to be honest, I was the one that grew up in an ultra-conservative family and learned what I know about my body from the internet.
Thanks for some insight, I guess its not bad...
This. we have never even discussed it, it was a given for both of us that we would take those couple days off. It makes doing it after the wait more fun too
Have y'all tried the shower?
....that's the only way I will do it if I am on my flow!