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Am I just being hormonal?
I'm so frustrated with DH. First, he is supposed to be training SIL and I on W/F's. Well, due to the weather and a Scentsy training, today was the first day we could have gone on those days. He tells me when I'm driving home that he has clients at 5:30. I ask him about it and he said he assumed since I was doing weight watchers now that I wouldn't be doing it so his clients were coming then. Um, ok...thanks!
Then, I get a phone call at 5:45 saying he was wrong and he DID in fact schedule his clients after we were supposed to come. So, now he's stuck at work until 7:30. Great. He was supposed to be home to cook hamburgers.
So, he walks in the door and asks what's for dinner and gets all huffy I tell him whatever he wants to fix. I'm in the middle of writing a freaking paper. I don't have time to plan a 2nd dinner.
Add this to the fact that I got bubbles and a set of 4 plastic kids rings from the $1 bin at Target for Valentines.
I'm angry. However, I don't know if it's just all the hormones or if I'm justified in my angriness.
I want to take a vacation. By myself. To a deserted island. No husband. No school. No work. No responsibility but myself.
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Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
Re: Am I just being hormonal?
Your DH gave you bubbles and plastic rings for Vday?
That's kind of....odd.
I think you have every right to be upset. He's the one that goofed up your schedule twice and he was supposed to make dinner. So he can make his dinner, since he obviously left you to your own devices.
Tell him there is only room enough for one hormonal girl in your house and you have dibs.
The Sand in My Snow Boots
Him making dinner means reheating leftover spaghetti which leaves me nothing.
The vday gifts were "gag" gifts because the real "gift" was supposed to be getting my car washed and gas put in it. The carwash was too busy and he didn't have time to wait. So, I got that crap left in my car as a "surprise".
Who the hell gets a gag gift for their wife for valentines? I thought maybe he'd at least take my car later in the week or get me a box of chocolates to make up for it. Nope. I got nothing.
If I bring it up to him, he'll just feel like I'm "attacking" him. I just feel so under appreciated and taken advantage of. He doesn't get that....at all. Truth be told, I'm on the verge of canceling this cycle because I'm terrified once we have a baby, I'll end up doing it all.
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
I would be annoyed, also.
How would you approach him if you talked to him about this? Do you approach it like hey, it really hurts me when you do x? Or do you say something more like, "hey you were an ass this week"
If he gets all huffy puffy over the first, then I say go with Ali's statement of there's only room for one hormonal girl in the house, and it's you.
Don't give up on the cycle. Truth be told, MANY women feel like they are the ones stuck doing all the work. Don't let that reason come in between what you've been wanting. That's just my .02 though.
Sometimes I feel like guys need a taste of their own medicine in order to understand what it feels like. For instance, when I get annoyed with picking up after H's crap in the bedroom (he DOES NOT hang his clothes up after changing after work- so work slacks and sweaters or button ups are ALL over the bed). So, I stopped picking up after him and occasionally leave my stuff there (until I get so frustrated I put MY stuff up and that is it) to prove a point. It's worked. Now he hangs his crap up. Not the same, but an example of taste of their own medicine. Maybe that is what YH needs? That and a glitter punch from me. :-)
(((hugs))))
Thanks. That makes me feel better.
I NEED to be working on this paper but I'm exhausted. I think I'm going to just go to bed and rest. I have to give my professor a test tomorrow since she was sick last week. That means I have to leave here at 6:30......yuck. I want to make sure I"m on my game tomorrow because after that, I have to take a stats test.
I would calm down and talk to him the first way Jackie. When I'm mad, I'm more inclined to tell him he's an ass.
I've tried the "taste of his own medicine" thing. It doesn't work.
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
ITA and I think you're totally justified.
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I'm inclined to agree with this. But I think you need to have a sit down conversation with him first to discuss your feelings. Make a list of "I feel" statements and avoid "you never". You know, that sort of stuff. If it doesn't click after having a talk, then maybe seek out a counselor. Especially with all the stuff you're putting your body through to get pregnant, I'd hate for it to happen for you and then have you just feeling angry and taken advantage of all the time. But we're here for you!
The Sand in My Snow Boots
Awww... Ashley... I know exactly what you're writing on the whole baby thing. The longer we try the less I think I'm ready for a kid as wierd as that sounds.
Anyway, I hope you and your DH can work it through... I think not being able to have kids or, in your case, going through treatment, puts an extra stress on things that you just don't notice. I would say it does for us but not in an obvious way just a "it's in the back (or front) of both our minds" type way....