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Headboard or bed?
Since moving out of my parents' house after college, I've never owned a "real" bed. I've always just had mattresses on a metal frame. That's all DH and I use now.
He doesn't seem to think that anything else is necessary. I have convinced him, though, that simply getting a headboard isn't bad. If nothing else, it'll keep our pillows from sliding down between the mattress and the wall!
But...I can never convince him to go shopping with me. That would explain why I haven't bought anything yet. However, I think I'm going to finally just do it and go shopping by myself tomorrow (I have the day off; DH doesn't). I'm really tempted to buy a whole new bed...headboard, footboard, frame, maybe even new mattresses. I don't think he'll be thrilled. I'll admit that I also think it's one thing to buy a simple headboard without his input on the design, but maybe buying a whole bed without him is too much? What do you think?
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I have had both - no headboard and an actual bed frame. I will say I like the way the room looks with the actual bed. I feel like more of an adult.
I do all the decorating so DH doesnt care what I get. If you really think DH will not be happy, then I would just get a headboard. But if you find a great deal, I would go for the whole bed. I don't really see what the big deal is about getting an actual bed, but I might be the minority since DH doesnt really care what/how the house is decorated.
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I would say go for it for the bed, but wait until DH is with you to shop for a new mattress. I was shocked how opinionated we were when we went mattress shopping, LOL!
We have a platform bed with storage underneath because of the lack of closets in our house. We were not able to get the headboard because of space reasons (it was AWESOME! Had a book shelf with recessed lighting! But that made it kinda big). BUT, we were both very excited with the idea of having a matching set because we had the metal frame with no headboard before this set.
I cheat. Our 'local' IMAX theater is in a furniture store here, so we always pair furniture shopping with a movie, LOL! It makes DH much more excited to go with me!
when it comes to stuff for the both of us, i can't make decisions on my own and NEED DH. (well, i could (and have in the past), i just want to make sure he likes it to!! especially big ticket items!) but i understand the difficulty if he doesnt want to go with you! i guess, the very least, it should be discussed you plan to buy all that so that when you drop hundreds of dollars, it doesnt cause drama
(DH are SUPPOSED to have an "over $100" rule to discuss with each other before purchasing - he's not played by the rules a time or 2 before.... bad boy)
we had thought we just wanted a headboard b/c we had the metal frame - but when we went looking, the bed we fell in love with was all in one (headboard, frame and footboard) so maybe you should just go looking and come up with options (write down model #s, etc so you can google image them later - or just take pics with your phone in the store) maybe if he saw what options he had, he would pick one of those, or agree to go shopping with you next weekend!!!
Why didn't I think of taking pics with my phone and sending them to him??
I should have also mentioned that he knows I'll be shopping for the headboard. And if I go over the price limit that he's willing to spend, I have some "allowance" money saved up that I wouldn't mind spending.
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If you can find a headboard that you both like, I would just get a headboard in order to save some money. If he's not interested in decorating or anything, you're probably safe buying it by yourself.
I'd say a bed. I slept on a matress, boxspring, wire frame until dh and I got married. It works fine, but I love the stability I get from having a whole bed. My old bed is our guest bedroom now and I can't wait to build a new sturdier frame for it.
And I'd def talk over any big furniture/mattress purchases with dh before going for it. If you're just getting a headboard and he knows about it (and doesn't have a strong opinion about the style), I wouldn't worry with telling him.
DH would kill me if I made a huge purchase like that without him.
Is your DH tall? If so, I would skip getting a whole bed and just do a headboard. We bought a nice BR set right before we got married and DH hates that we have a footboard, bc his legs are too long for it. It was an oversight.
You could DIY/spruce up one using a cheap headboard you could find at a garage sale/thrift store/CL.