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um... wtf?!?
Remember how I had that big antique wedding dress display at my wedding, with all dresses from people in my family? I have left it up since the wedding because various family members wanted to bring their friends by to see it. It's my grandma's house and she doesn't live there currently (health reasons) so it's a safe place to leave things and they won't be in anyone's way. There's one room we never, ever use so that's where the dresses are- completely out of the way. People in my family go to gram's house regularly to check on it and apparently my 2 cousins (my 31 yr old MOH and her 27 yr old brother) hang out there every so often because they have nothing better to do.
In January, my mom went out and 2 of my cousins and some of their friends were there. The next day, my parents were there again and mom noticed my dress was now across the room, on top of hers. Weird, but she didn't think much of it. 3 weeks ago there was a leak in the room above the dress room so she went to move the dresses. When she turned mine over, she saw this:
That's green and red FROSTING. Even better, it's smeared on my MOM's wedding dress, AND on the antique sofa!!! wtf?!? Gram knows nothing, my aunt and uncle know nothing, and my aunt (whose kids are the ones that hang out at gram's house) says it's my fault for leaving my dress there- even though she's one of the ones who asked that I leave the display up.
My poor mom kept this a secret from me for 3 weeks, until the cleaners told her it's no problem to get it out. She's been acting so weird lately, I should have known something was up. Mom was able to clean her own dress herself, since the frosting got only on the netting part, not on the satin. The sofa still has frosting on it, she refuses to clean that up. I'm so upset though, that someone would do something like this, whether it's a cruel joke or an accident, then hide it and try to put the blame on me for storing my dress in a house no one lives in, in a room used only for storage.
Sorry this is so long, but oh I'm so upset! My beautiful dress! I'm not even the type of person who could do a TTD session because of worrying about the safety of my dress!
Re: um... wtf?!?
Omg! I would be pissed and I totally understand why you're so upset! I feel the same way about my dress.
It's awful that someone would do that...then hide it. Do you think you'll find out who it was? Any ideas?
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I think the most likely thing is my 27yr old's gf's 4 yr old daughter probably got too close to my dress while eating a cupcake or something and dropped it, and everyone decided to hide it and pretend it didn't happen. My cousins do this a lot, hide the evidence and ignore it, they can never admit to anything. I hope it was an accident like that and not something intentional, because if someone did this on purpose I'm not sure I could go to family stuff again. But lying about and hiding it really bothers me, too. I'm really glad it's a long time until this next family thing.
I'm considering emailing my MOH cousin because she might know what happened, and it's pretty easy to make her crack. And she really loved being in my wedding so I think a guilt-trip would be pretty easy to work.
MOH cousin's BFF was there that day too, and she'd just broken up with her bf, but I don't think she's crazy enough to take it out on my dress. I think it's likely she might have tried my dress on, though, maybe someone zipped her up and didn't realize they had frosting on their hand? Since it is near where you'd grab the zipper.
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I just don't understand why someone wouldn't have the decency to try to clean the frosting off to some extent instead of just leaving the mess right on the dress. Doesn't anyone have any sense of guilt? Ugh.
Can you get the dress cleaned in that little area without having to pay to have the whole thing cleaned (if you've already had it cleaned once?) That would suck -- I FINALLY just had mine sent to be cleaned and was not happy about how much it cost.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I'm sorry, but that is too big a deal for a family member NOT to fess up. These are wedding dresses, not just a random table cloth. And some of them are heirlooms! I would be very upset that they were irresponsible enough to actually stain the dresses, but to just shove them in a corner and pretend like nothing happens is not okay. Especially when family is involved.
They are really lucky the stains are going to come out! What if the dye from the frosting wouldn't come out? Ugh, I'd be very upset too!
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I actually never had it cleaned. I was planning to visit a family friend in a nursing home wearing the dress to show her, and I was going to clean it after that. We were never able to get over there on a day it wasn't raining or muddy out, though.
I'm sure the cost of cleaning it is a factor in the person hiding that this happened, but honestly, I don't care about the money, since I was going to pay for a cleaning anyway. I think this only added a little to the cleaning cost, the estimate is $343, which includes the $100 special preservation box.
This is exactly what I thought as well, esp since if they took them right to the cleaners ( before the frosting dried) there would be a greater chance that it would all come out.
I'm soooo glad that they were able to clean them. If I were you, I would be grilling everyone that may have been there during that time period.
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