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Are you not supposed to tell people that a family member has passed away?
My really nice MIL passed away in December, and it's been really strange. We haven't told that many people, but we're often getting no response from people. Is it bad manners that I'm telling some of my friends my MIL has passed away? Or is it just awkward, and they don't know what to say? I'm not looking for sympathy, but when someone asks what's new, it seems strange to leave out that a major part of our lives is gone. But maybe I shouldn't mention it?
What do you think?
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"Last night I dreamed I ate a ten-pound marshmallow, and when I woke up the pillow was gone." - Tommy Cooper
Re: Are you not supposed to tell people that a family member has passed away?
Thanks, jesmadi-- that's what I thought, too. Oh, well.
(shrug)
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"Last night I dreamed I ate a ten-pound marshmallow, and when I woke up the pillow was gone." - Tommy Cooper
If you were my friend, I'd want you to tell me. Not telling a friend seems like you are assuming that they really wouldn't care.
Now, if they didn't know MIL, there isn't much you can expect them to say except for "I'm very sorry." Sometimes I don't ask any additional questions ("Was she ill?") b/c it seems like prying - not b/c I don't care.
No response at all? Not even, "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that"?
Very strange. Some people are weird about death.
But no, it's not bad manners to share that news.
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"Last night I dreamed I ate a ten-pound marshmallow, and when I woke up the pillow was gone." - Tommy Cooper
I agree. And I'm also sorry for your loss.
It's very normal to share, but it seems strange to me that the people you are close with are finding out two months after the fact.
If, in fact, you are not close to these people, and you are answering a casual "what's new?" with "MIL died" -- well, that seems awkward to me.