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Coworker bosses me around and talks to me like I am stupid
So, I have been at my job for about 5 weeks. I enjoy what I do, but I have one coworker who talks to me like I am the biggest re-re for not knowing where things are (that I have NEVER been shown), answers to customers questions, etc.
She looks at me like "are you stupid?" She bosses me aorund, "hand me the (fill in blank)" when she can get it herself. She also dodges work by telling me to do something and then talking on her phone or to friends who come in for an hour or more.
Last week, she told my boss that I filled out a form incorrectly that SHE FILLED OUT!
Of course I want to stick up for myself-what would you say/do? I just want advice.
Re: Coworker bosses me around and talks to me like I am stupid
Well, I'd start by clarifying what you did right in front of the boss. When she says, "But fl4lovers filled this out wrong!" you could say, "Well, coworker, this is in your handwriting, but is there some way you want me to do this differently in the future when I have to fill one of these out, boss?" It's all in your tone. It has to be light.
With the "hand me the XYZ" stuff, I'd personally play dumb. "Oh, Mary, you know you can reach the stapler. Stop kidding around!" Or, just hand it to her if it's not that much of an inconvenience (i.e., the stapler instead of a file you'd have to sort through a big cabinet to get to, interrupting your own work in the process.)
If the innocent act doesn't work, I'd just (nicely) confront her. "Coworker, I'm not sure what's going on. You seem to be doing XYZ. I was hired to do ABC, though, so I'm not sure why there's a disconnect. What do you think the problem is?" with that sweet-as-pie-and-totally-innocent look on your face.
Barring that, take it to HR.
Your new. She's not. This stuff happens.
Keep your head down, learn your job, and develop a relationship with your manager that allows you to connect with him/her directly to learn a bit more about what the politics are there. Just because she told your boss you filled it out doesn't mean he/she believed her.
In terms of your perception that she is bossing you around, you can have a conversation like, "I'm happy to help you out with things. Sometimes, however, you speak to me like you're demanding me to do things, and though I know you don't mean to sound offensive, sometimes it comes off that way. Maybe we can find a way to get off on a better foot and start again?"
And, is a "re-re" a term for a mentally retarded person? Please don't do that, on the nest or in real life. It's offensive and not helping your "i'm a victim here" case any.
Like PP said, the term "re re" is incredibly offensive and immature.
I don't have any advice for someone like you who uses derogatory terms for the mentally disabled to refer to things that you think are dumb.
This, except I do have a bit of advice.
Nothing you stated is particularly awful. So she asks you to hand her something. She's either testing your assertiveness, or that's her personality and most people let it go. So should you. If she says you did something wrong and she did it, find a way to (nicely) call her out on it.
But really, from your post you do sound incredibly immature, and she's probably reacting to that.
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Ok, sorry for the re-re term.
Thanks for the advice!
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Ok, got called out-moving on. I apologized. People have been WAY less PC than I was.