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I am not asking for sympathy but.......
WHere is a good place to go to get a job lined up asap and I wont miss a beat in getting paid? If there is that sort of thing. Had another run in with boss today, made me upset and cry, and said some things like this is not a crying place, etc. I dont know what stress you are under and dont care. Made the remark of wonders how I can afford something, etc. but didn't care cause it wasn't his business. And he said some over stuff and said that we are having a "meeting" tomorrow to discuss what I "can" do. And i guess now it's going to be out in the open..... I have a disorder and he would never undestand it.
Re: I am not asking for sympathy but.......
Maybe call an employment agency? They might have something that can get you temporary work until you find something permanent.
Also, maybe see if there's retail work out there. I doubt it would get you paid the same wages, but it might be more enjoyable work.
I'm really sorry you got treated that way! I would start looking ASAP. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. This has happened way too many times for you to stay there. Is there something else holding you back from moving to a new job?
Frankly, Charity, I could care less if you miss a day of pay. I'd love to see you out of there. I can't imagine that place is good for your mental health, and I'm more concerned for that right now.
That's some tough love for you, sweets.
Last updated 4/06/11
I think I'll second checking in with manpower or adecco. I can't see how stay there any longer is good for you mentally. If he were to "let you go" unemployment would take up to 4-6 weeks before you start receiving assistance.
This guy seems to be a Royal Beast and is constantly beating you down. I do see other insurance agency's putting ad's out so maybe you could jump to another company with your background.
Good advice here already. I'd check the listings for employment and see what other agencies are hiring. I'm not sure what kind of insurance you deal in (I can't remember if you've said), but maybe try for something bigger like Priority Health or Humana, so you're not in such a small office. Your boss sounds like a d!ck. No one deserves to be talked to like that constantly.
Sidenote: I had a friend who worked for an ins company that was family owned (so on the smaller side) and her workplace was miserable too. Is this an insurance thing or what? Good grief.
A temp service would get you out of there immediately, but the pay is prob not as well, and no benefits, but it'd get you out, while still collecting a check, etc. Do they have head hunters for your line of work?
This is also an opportunity for you to analyze your career. Do you want to continue down the insurance road? Or would you rather pursue something you are more passionate about if insurance isn't your thing? This would be the time to change careers if you are looking for an out.
Are you/Can you be on DH's insurance? If so, I'd probably go the temp route as well if you have some marketable skills. In fact, you could meet with them & get some testing done while you're still working, I'd think and then know whether or not you have that as an option. My DH has been at his company for about 6 years now but started there as a manpower temp. That was how they sorted through the rif raf to see who actually met their qualifications. Then they'd hire people full time from that pool.
I saw to that you mentioned that you have "a disorder" but I don't know anything about it or the severity. As someone who also has a disorder, and one that I don't really want to talk to employers about because it shouldn't affect my ability to work, just don't let that define you. Remember that you are you, with all of your skills, and you just happen to have a disorder that influences your life & choices.
I have a disorder as well -- borderline personality disorder. I would never tell an employer this - they don't need to know it, or how this causes me to react, I have a therapist and close friends that monitor me while I'm learning to manage it.
I was let go a week ago, and I thought it would be the worst thing ever. Like you, I was MISERABLE in my job, had a boss with insanely high expectations, and would come down on me for insignificant items.
Yes, I'm stressed over the finances, unemployment is helping to bridge the gap, i'm babysitting, and registered to Sub-teach.
My mental health is a million times better than it was a week ago, simply because i'm not in a crazed environment. In fact, I went to my dr to switch to cheaper meds, and he took me off the supplemental AD, simply because I'm out of the environment that 'took me over the edge' and caused me to need it.
PM me if you want.