a breakthrough!!!

jl&jl · February 2011

The other night, I told DH I wanted to sit down with him and talk. We were both in good moods, so I felt like it was time for a heart to heart. I feel like we've been in this pendulum of me doing everything, me complaining about it and him ignoring me.

So...I told him "You're a great dad and I appreciate all you do with the baby, but I could really use your help around here. I'm not complaining about the days you work, but the days you have off, I could really use your help (his days off are my long days at work). I get frustrated when you promise to do something I ask you to and then you don't". He said "I don't mean to forget, but I do. I always seem to lose the lists you write. I want to make you happy, but I don't know how." I wanted to say....duh....just do the things I ask you to. But I didn't have to speak up. He said "I have an idea. Maybe you can use the whiteboard and we can put it on the fridge. You can write what day you want what done. That way I'll remember and I'll know where to find the lists". Easy enough. I can do that.

I love it...a successful talk! I spoke up, just like all of my nesties recommended. Wohoo!

grahamsm3 · February 2011

I was hoping that this was about YH listening to your needs and following through!

danieleandwayne · February 2011

Don't you just love it when a plan comes together?!? Smile

jd72878 · February 2011

I LOVE IT! The white board rocks and will never get lost. I think my favorite part is that HE came up with the idea :-)

jgreg29 · February 2011

HOORAY! It's fantastic that you had time for a good chat and YH not only listened but helped come up with a plan! Love it!

MaineIslandBride · February 2011

That's awesome! I really hope the white board works. I've been using the white board for the same thing and dh just seems to not notice what's on there or he does and he still puts of doing the things on the white board. However my dh's problem is just that he is a huge procrastinator in every aspect of his life. That doesn't sounds like that's the same problem you and your dh are dealing with.

tripin · February 2011

I have had this same sit down, probably right around the same time. I hope this works. Be patient, eventually it will happen. From experience, just be persistant, and eventually the silver lining comes.

Interrobang · February 2011

Awesome!! I'm glad it went well. And the white board is a great idea. I actually have one on my fridge and it's just me there, haha.

maeghan21 · February 2011

Woohoo!! I hope the white board works.I think it really should since it's easy AND it was his idea which of course makes it better in a guy's eyes

MainelyFoolish · February 2011

I hope the whiteboard works for you. We have one on our door in the kitchen (our usual entrance/exit) to leave reminders to ourselves or each other and it's about 50/50 whether DH notices something I put there for him. Huh?

WildcatPrincess · February 2011

I'm glad it went well for you! We finally moved our whiteboard to the kitchen because it was in the bedroom before and DH never looked at it there. Hopefully it helps!