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Gave notice - boss wants to go to lunch

My last day at my current job will be 3/9. I gave my notice last week. I've been miserable for a long time, but the main reason is the guy I work for. I hate him, he's annoying, can't do anything for himself, etc. Anyway, he emailed me and offered to take me to lunch tomorrow as a "thank you for all you have done for me." I really don't want to go. I try to speak to him as little as possible as it is now because I just can't stand him anymore. Would it be rude of me to decline? How can I decline without being blatantly rude? Or should I just suck it up and go? 

A coworker suggested I go and just opt to not discuss business, but I don't want to discuss my personal life with him either!

Ideas please!? 

Re: Gave notice - boss wants to go to lunch

  • Would you feel comfortable telling him that you previously committed to lunch tomorrow?  Then find a co-worker to back up your story, and make sure you are OUT at lunch and schedule meetings or something around lunch so you can't just go later.

    Worst case scenario: suck it up and go. You never want to burn your bridges in case he comes up in your path again down the road. Make yourself feel better knowing how great you will feel that you will never again have to work with him.

  • Suck it up and go. Leave on as good a note as possible.
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    Suck it up and go. Leave on as good a note as possible.

    Ditto.  He probably really DID appreciate all you did for him.  No reason to burn bridges!

  • Can it be a team lunch, so you can say good-bye to everyone?
  • I'd go. You never know when you might want a recommendation from him or the company in the future. How bad can an hour lunch be?
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  • You're all right, I'll go. I just need to think of some safe topics we can talk about!
  • Tough it out.You can talk about the weather, Oscar's, new job, local events...
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  • I'd definitely go.  Even though it will be painful, you never know when you might need this person for a recommendation.  Many companies want the name and contact info from your last few employers (I work in HR).  Just stay on safe topics - family, vacations, the weather, etc.
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