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Kennedy Aleise 2/19/11
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I'm so disgusted!!!
As if I don't have enough on my mind - I just stumbled across a posting from my niece on Facebook. She posted all about what was going on with Kennedy and that her dad (H's brother) asked them to pray for her. She said on Facebook, "its gonna be hard for them cuz their not christians, but mab this is what will turn them around."
This is the same kid who talked *&%$ about our wedding photos on Gmail Buzz last year. I'm FURIOUS! I'm tempted to call my SIL right now, but I'm biting my tongue. You can bet she's getting a phone call from me first thing in the morning!
Kennedy Aleise 2/19/11
Life As We Know It
Re: I'm so disgusted!!!
Give me their address, I will go knock some sense into that little brat.
Seriously though, I am sorry that you have to go through this again on top of everything else. If it were me, I would have made the phone call right now. I have been thinking about you a lot lately, sending tons of Nestie vibes your way!
I just got home from H's softball game/outing, I will email you on FB tomorrow.
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Oh my goodness, that is horrible. My first impulse would have been to comment on FB "How Christ-like of you. Thanks for showing us heathens what Christian compassion looks like." But I'm a biatch like that.
I am so so so so sorry and I hope that everything is ok with Kennedy.
I'm sorry you have to deal with that too. What a little pain in the ***! Did you speak to SIL yet?
Even though I agree that her comments are inappropriate & I am in no way condoning her actions, try to keep in mind that she's just a kid and probably didn't realize how hurtful her comments are.
Here's the thing that would really piss me off though. The girl says her dad asked for people to pray for them. Kids don't come up with ignorant ideas like that without influence, kwim? She may be too young and naive to filter herself, but someone is teaching this kid an intolerant brand of whatever religion she thinks she's practicing.
That's awful. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. She can't be offensive in the name of Christ. Some religious people think that they can say anything and reason their awful comments with religion. KWIM?
That girl needs a serious lesson. In a few years, when she's an adult, she'll realize how awful her comments were. (hopefully)
I totally agree. I'm not saying her comments are okay, just because she's a child. Someone needs to explain to her (and her father) that's not appropriate. I'd just try to be a little more gentle (for lack of a better word) with her.
From what Jen has wrote before about the wedding pictures, it seems to me (I could be totally wrong here) she was never told or it was not clear about her behavior.
From my perspective, I'd be more upset with her parents.
I don't think posting this comment would have been inappropriate. Seriously.
I am so sorry you have this added family stress. At some point I think you should talk to your SIL and tell them how much their daughters comments have hurt you and it's unacceptable. How did your SIL handle the last run in your had with these girls? Did she blow it off? I can tell you had that been me, my mom would have had serious words with me.
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UGH. This. And I love what COP would have posted in reply. Although, you have got to be the bigger person here. Honestly, just this afternoon I "unfriended" my SIL. I absolutely can not take reading the stupid ignorant selfish things she is posting about her mother. I know it is childish to "unfriend" people, but seeing it was grating at me and harmful and I was getting a little obsessive with looking at it. I already miss the ability to see what is going on, but it is just healthier for me. Facebook can be a good way to KIT with people, but it can be the epitomy of all evil also. I am SO sorry you are dealing with all this.
UGH. This. And I love what COP would have posted in reply. Although, you have got to be the bigger person here. Honestly, just this afternoon I "unfriended" my SIL. I absolutely can not take reading the stupid ignorant selfish things she is posting about her mother. I know it is childish to "unfriend" people, but seeing it was grating at me and harmful and I was getting a little obsessive with looking at it. I already miss the ability to see what is going on, but it is just healthier for me. Facebook can be a good way to KIT with people, but it can be the epitomy of all evil also. I am SO sorry you are dealing with all this.
I can't stop thinking about this situation. H and I are both atheists and are very sensitive to people who push their religion on others.
I did some research for you...My retort to your niece would be, "Why would you think that being Christian would solve my problem? Christians are not immune to disabilities at all. As a matter of fact, here is a website that catalogues Christians with disabilities http://www.christianhistorytimeline.com/site/disabilities.shtml. And if Christians with disabilities didn't exsist, then I guess there would be no reason for this group of people, Christians With Disabilities, http://cwd.spruz.com/. Have you never seen a disabled person in a church? Has every woman in your church given birth to perfect babies? I guess nobody has had a miscarriage, either. Think before you speak."
(I would make those websites links, but I'm on a mac and I haven't figured it out yet.)
Lots of luck to you in the situation with your niece. And my thoughts are with your family right now. I hope Kennedy pulls through beautifully!!
I completely agree with everyone that said that what I wrote wouldn't have been the most appropriate thing to say...or the mature thing. I still probably would have done it, but I freely admit that I'm imperfect.
Jennifer, I didn't mean to distract from the point of your post, which is that you are going through something difficult (and doing it with a lot of grace and strength from what I can see) and that is the time that family should be rally around you and praying for your child's health above all else. I am sorry that you are being put through this additional stress.
I'd be disgusted too. In fact, I'm pissed. Too many kids today don't understand a filter, and it makes me so mad.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I'm sure you're tired and emotional, like all new moms, and having the stress of knowing your daughter is going to need heart surgery and is showing signs of Downs is surely overwhelming.
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