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Wedding Withdrawal? (psst pictures in here!)
Anyone else going through a little wedding withdrawal? I have a few friends that just got engaged, so they keep asking me for help... and I have to admit, I kind of miss planning. I have so much free time now, though, which is nice.
Anyway.... it sounds like most of us have at least some of the pictures back. Anyone want to share the links again? 
I have quite a few in my married bio (in my sig), but you can see more online too at: http://www.snapgrinphotography.com/blog/?page_id=4247
Re: Wedding Withdrawal? (psst pictures in here!)
Your pics are great! I don't really miss planning at all- it was too stressful with work and school but I miss the actual wedding day. I wish we could live that over again! I'm still waiting on my pictures...I've seen them but don't actually have the cd with them on it. I'll share when I get it!
Don't miss it at all! In fact, my brother just got engaged this past month, and I'm relieved that he and his FI live three time zones away (CA) and that I'm not involved at all (so far)!
Got into a semi-stressful convo with my mom about his wedding yesterday. Bit-o-background: my parents paid for 90% of our wedding costs. They're really traditional and on several occasions pointed out how it was the bride's family's responsibility, yada yada, etc. Anyways, my brother asked my mother how much our wedding stuff cost just so he could get an idea of how to budget everything. Apparently she flat out told him how much they spent on my wedding and what the biggest expenses were (reception venue with sit down dinner, open bar, and photographer).
I was kind of like
when she told me what she told him because he might be wondering when she and my father are going to pony up some funding for his wedding! He and his FI are both employed and make good money (which I in fact know, because my mother has told me how much he makes and how much of a raise/bonus he has gotten in the past -- can you tell she has no boundaries regarding money talk??), and have already stated that they're going to probably end up paying for everything themselves because his FI's family is going through financial hard times due to the lagging construction industry. When I suggested to my mother that she tread carefully when discussing wedding finances with my bro, since they spent so much on my wedding and aren't planning to offer anything for his, she kept saying "well it's not like your father and I are swimming in money either!" [compared to bro's FI's parents]. Well yeah...but you weren't swimming in money for my wedding either, but you still managed to fund most all of it.
Anyways, I'm rambling now. I just hope my brother sincerely doesn't anticipate any funding from my parents, because apparently he's not going to get it!
I don't miss it and LOVE helping my SIL plan her wedding for this June and friend for May. It's nice no longer thinking "what am I going to want" when helping. I think these are my last 2 times (out of 7) as a BM so I am enjoying them as much as possible!
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No, not at all. I did pretty much 90% of the work by myself leading up to wedding week and then lots of folks pitched in to pull everything together. It was too much stress to plan a wedding on my own, look for a new job, new place to live & someone to take my house off of my hands. It was a wonderful day & I love thinking back on it, but no, I don't miss the planning (or at least the work part of it.)
I do find myself watching SYTTD and wondering what kind of dress I would have gone with if I had had thousands of dollars to spend on it. Don't get me wrong, I loved my dress, but it's kind of like wondering what kind of car you would upgrade to if you had the money to do so.
I was going to say, maybe I'm the only one who doesn't suffer from wedding withdrawal, but looking at the responses above, I guess I'm not alone! I loved our wedding day and I wouldn't change a thing about it, but the year of stress, of planning, of setting everything up for one day? Wouldn't do it again if you paid me.
It's funny, too, because right after the new year I got promoted to the position of wedding coordinator at the church I work at! So I'll be helping plan a LOT of weddings (we already have 11 this year, and it's still early!) from now on! Also, my cousin is getting married in August, and H's cousin is getting married in September -- so there will be plenty of weddings in my life this upcoming year.
Plus now we're so busy with so much more -- moving in five weeks to a new home, working more hours at work, H training for a new career, and getting ready to start TTC this summer -- the wedding is a wonderful memory, but I'm glad to have the memory, and I wouldn't want to relive it, if that makes any sense.
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Steph - I just love your pictures! Sooo beautiful. And one of my bridesmaids wore the same dress as yours (they each picked a different style of their own liking). It was definitely one of my favorites... so classy. I don't think I'll ever get bored checking out people's wedding photos.
I am sort of in withdrawal too. Wedding planning was stressful for us but a very special time too. We experienced so much bonding among family members and with each other and it was so exciting whenever we found just the right color this or that. I loved watching it all come together. I am enjoying helping stepsis with hers, but of course, planning your own is definitely a unique experience.
Now I SO want our pro pics! Lol.
I'm glad it's over. There were parts I liked, and I'd be happy to help out a friend or relative, but I'm glad I don't have to do my own again. I think someone else's would be more fun.
We're hoping my SIL will get married soon (still looking for a guy) and DH said that since he'll have to pay for it, I better plan it so we're within budget LOL!
That is awkward to discuss money in that much detail... my family is really traditional too and my mom flat out told my brother that my parents won't be paying anything for his wedding because it will be up to the girl's family. He's not dating right now, so it's not like he was planning a wedding, but it's still awkward.
Steph -- you have great hair! So thick but also shiny! Love the pics!
I can't say I really miss planning. I guess I miss having a project to work on, but my best friend got married almost 2 months later and I was her MOH, so I was busy helping her after ours was over. Then there were always the holidays that happened after, so it just feels like we are finally getting time to get into our own routines and be a normal, married couple.
I love looking at everyone's pictures! If you guys are bored, you can see our ceremony and reception pics here under Shaily & John:
http://www.bestphotog.com/portfolio/html/gal_sec.php?active_sec=gallery_sec&curr_page=1&active_btn=2&sec_id=47
Ceremony Photos:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577626&id=877570023&l=6fd9b5d0bf
Family Shots:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577635&id=877570023&l=b65e2f5ef1
DH and I:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577620&id=877570023&l=a2dbb38f93
Reception Festivities:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577654&id=877570023&l=0c8e440768
Nifty Little Details:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577617&id=877570023&l=0dc573dffa
Getting Ready:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577611&id=877570023&l=efce56b135
Reception Dances:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577607&id=877570023&l=b316fcfb1c
The Reception:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577601&id=877570023&l=afe8bbc4bc
Wedding Party:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=577596&id=877570023&l=614fb08763
For the record, I'm glad I'm not planning a wedding anymore
I was so relieved for the planning to be over because I was cranky and annoyed for a few decisions. I was going to help my friend out, but she's doing her own thing and I'll do mine 