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Stolen poll (of sorts) - male chivalry
Does your DH perform common acts of chivalry for you, such as opening doors, letting you go first, pulling out chairs, etc, and how often? Did he do it when you were dating?
How do you feel about these things? Do you expect them, or just think that they are nice when they do happen?
(the was on MM, but I'm bringing it over here, because we're quiet today)
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Re: Stolen poll (of sorts) - male chivalry
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I meant to answer my own questions right away, but I had to run off and do work stuff.
DH does all of it, all the time. He always opens my car door, even when I'm driving. He used to open it to let me out, but I'm not patient enough, so that doesn't happen often. He doesn't always pull out my chair, but he does it often. He always opens door for me.
I actually expect this. It's the way I was raised, and I don't plan to change it. I consider it a benefit of being a woman. When I was dating, if I guy didn't open the first door (car, restaurant, etc) for me, I would end the date. I wasn't interested in someone that didn't do that automatically.
He would open doors for me if I let him walk in front, but he can't because he smokes. He has to stay away from me and behind me when he's smoking or has just smoked, or it chokes me.
Usually we hit the automatic door release on the car before we even get to it.
One thing I noticed on our first date that he did (and does) do is walk on the outside of the sidewalk, street side. The only other person I ever knew who did that was an attorney in his 70s, so when H was doing it on our first date, I noticed it. Apparently, I'm the first person who ever did, so he was surprised that I picked up on it.
I don't expect much of any of it; I've always been of the school of "whoever gets to the door first opens it." Though If I'm driving a vehicle without automatic door locks, I always open the passenger door first, and I appareciate it when the same is done for me.
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he lets me go first into buildings but doesn't open my car door or pull out my chair - practical things.
i always thought a woman should go up the stairs behind a man so that way the man could pull open the door - but my dad says the woman should go first that way incase she falls ( my sister and I aren't that graceful ) the man could catch her !
he opens building and room doors for me, but not the car.
Pulling the chair out happens randomly, depends on the type of restaurant.
I expect the doors, but the rest is just icing on the cake.
Sounds familiar.
He won't stand up and pull out the chair if we're already sitting down, to me that's just strange.
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Same with the practical things. Rodgers sometimes opens the car door, but always opens doors to buildings. He's never pulled out my chair.
About the stairs, Rodgers says the woman should go up first because it gives the man a great view of her booty.
ETA: as far as expectations, I started with none, but have come to expect Rodgers to open building doors for me because he always does.
ryan opens car doors and building doors most of the time. like meghann, i'm too impatient to wait for him to open the car door when we're getting out, lol. he also helps me w/ my jacket a lot which is nice. i don't think he does the chair thing.
i still don't "expect" him to do these things, it's not the end of the world if i open a building door, but i like that he does them. of course, right now he has to help me out a lot more than normal.
I laughed my a$s off when I started thinking of Clint and me in this situation.
When we first started dating he did all these things (maybe not the chair thing). I would stay he still opens doors for me, carries things (like groceries, the baby in her car seat when we're together), and a few other things.
What made me laugh was the comment about going up the stairs first or second, because I don't want to do either. If he goes first, he farts in my face, and if I go first, he gives me a credit card. (In case you are unaware, a credit card is when you make your hand flat and "swipe" it like a credit card up or down someone's buttcrack.) I generally run up the stairs with my hand covering my butt.
Ah, young love.
ah yes, credit cards. you are cracking me up today!
This is what Travis would say too. Bunch of pervs we married!
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