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wedding related...
I just received an unexpected invitation to an old friend's wedding that is in October. Old friend as in I might have seen her ONCE since graduating high school. We're FB friends and that's really about it. The invitation is beautiful, but included were four seperate slips of paper each one naming a place where they are registered. I was kind of taken aback by it as I was taught that registry information should only be given by word-of-mouth or on shower invites...never included with formal invitations. I don't really even want to go because I feel like she's expecting gifts. Maybe I'm crazy.
Also, she's having her bachelorette party THIS WEEKEND. Recap: the wedding is in OCTOBER! I confronted her about it, asking her why so early. She said that it's her friends birthday, so they're going ahead and making it a birthday/bachelorette party. Annnd that she'll be having a 2nd one a week before the wedding.
Okay, I understand that she's excited but this is not her first wedding. She's 24 and got married right out of high school...that ended quickly and began dating this guy September '09.
It just seems to me like a gift grab kind of thing. Am I being ridiculous?
Re: wedding related...
Okay first the invite is out at least 7 months in advance, 2nd her registry info was in the invite (not a shower invite?).
I say respond no to all.
I'm definitely going to decline. I just wanted to be sure I wasn't being completely redonkulous and b*tchy for my reasoning. I was thinking that it was waaay too early for invites (I could understand save-the-dates!) PLUS the registry info? Way to be on top of your game but geez, it's a little too much too soon.
BTW, if anything ever happens between Rusty and I and I get engaged/married again, it will be a quicky. Our wedding was my dream wedding. I see it as you only get that treatment once. It irks me that people do this and see marriage as "disposable". *end rant*
Klassy.
No, I don't think you're being b*tchy at all. And quite frankly, if I were the other friend who is having the birthday party, I'd be pissed. She is super duper intruding. She just can't wait and be patient. It's that whole "I want it all and I want it right now" attitude that I blame most of societies problems on. She's done nothing to earn this party... she hasn't spent months sweating over detailed wedding plans ensuring that all of her guests will have an excellent time and she will look impecable. Takes a lot of nerve imo.
Welcome to the dark side
This. All of this.
Ok I had to go back and read b/c I'm thinking "isn't this when STDs would go out?"
I would decline, send a nice card in October if you remember, but it sounds like a gift grab and she obviously has no idea how to do things.
Wives Unscripted
I was thinking it was a STD at first also. Nope, definitely the formal invitation. I have a wedding etiquette book that I bought when we first got engaged...maybe I should wrap that up and mail it to her as her "gift"?
Um, yeah, I'm with everyone else too. You are NOT being bitchy. All of that is ridiculous - the fact it's an invite 7 months in advance, the sharing of the birthday/b-party and that its 7 months in advance, sending registry info with the invite - whew, she's just working all of the kookyness. I'm not saying everyone has to follow all the etiquette but this is just all a mess!
OMG Do it!
Wives Unscripted
October 11, 2008
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Ditto others on saying no, but I wouldn't send a card - you've only talked to her once. What I would do is find something on the registry you need and buy it - you know she's stalking them and will over-analyze where her gift is when she doesn't get it.
DD: 6-24-11
EDD: 9-20-14
bahahaha I LOVE this idea. I actually am curious as to what she's registered for having been married once already. Probably really expensive things...hmm, I'm going to see.
Holy crap! How old is she? 12?
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