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MIL ruined it for herself

I like my MIL.  Yes, she can drive me nuts, but all in all she is a good MIL.

I am the one who always calls her or answers her calls ( caller ID).   In Oct we got her a computer  and ever since then she calls at  three to five times a week with questions!!  DH is an IT guy so thats why she calls him vs' one of his siblings.  It has gotten so bad that we dont answer the phone when she calls! 

I tried to be nice and called her yesterday. After 6 rings she didnt answer  so I hung up because i didnt want to leave a message. Wouldnt you know she checked her "missed calls" and called last night!   Being the good DIL I answered and talked for 20 min.  I told her DH was tied up and couldnt talk.........SHE CALLED 20 MIN. LATER to ask if she should take a survey on line! 

I am not answering/calling her any more

Re: MIL ruined it for herself

  • Can't your DH just flat out tell her "Mom, we like talking to you but you are calling too much now. If you have questions about your computer, write them down and I'll check in with you once a week to go over them. Otherwise, we're going to stop answering the phone when you call."
  • He has told her to save them up for once a week.  thats like talkign to the wall

     

    I dont think she is lonely..she is involved in a zillion things( goes to plays, concerts, dinner- A LOT, etc....)

     

    oh, and the BEST was last night she started telling me about being in contact with my DH's ex and then I had to hear all about that.  I get along fine with the ex and dont care that they are in contact, but I dont need to hear about it!  ( she actualy wanted to know why we didtn tell her that she was divorced from her 2nd husband!- heck ,we dont really give a crap, thats why!)

  • I don't really see the problem here, honestly.

    Unless she calls and talks for hours on end for each call (and even then, you can say that you have to go, and hang up). 

    Or unless you meant that she calls 3-5 times a day, not 3-5 times a week.

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  • Does she tend to ask the same questions over and over again?

    How about making her a quick, printed "flip book" how-to manual, so she doesn't have to call so much with questions?  Or buy her one of those Internet-For-Dummies or Computers-For-Idiots books?

     

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