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a lot of TMI questions about Anal sex
I want to try it but there are a couple things stopping me, that I am curious about...
1. It seems that most of the time there would be stool up in there. Does it get all smashed when you have anal? And then give you big problems going to the restroom later on?
2. What about the sperm left in there? does everything just get kind of cleaned out the next time you use the restroom? Do you have a high risk of some sort of infection? Is it best to use a condom? Can you even use a condom doing it that way?
3. If it's tight and hurts, are there tricks to try, or are some people just unable to? Just want to be prepared in case. : )
Thank you!! I am very lost on this topic as you can see! Just want to know what to expect and be prepared.
Re: a lot of TMI questions about Anal sex
Pure Romance has a product called Booty Ease. It numbs you so it makes it more.. bearable.
Never tried it, but I've heard good reviews
no no and no
yes, it gets "cleaned out" and high risk for infection? If he urinates, that should flush anything out that may cause problems. A condom is not mandatory.
I highly doubt his penis is larger than your largest stool. So you should be able to accomodate him. Good luck and have fun.
There is no stool in your rectum. The rectum is the last lower several inches of your large intestine, give or take a couple of inches.
Use a condom, lots of lube and under no circumstances have vaginal sex after anal. There are lots of virulent and dangerous bacteria in the rectum.
Absolutely agree! You can get a non curable disease from switching back and forth from anal to vaginal.
Absolutely do not use numbing agents! Pain is your body's way of telling you something is not right and to stop.
You need to lead up to anal, you're probably not going to be able to accomplish full penetration the first (or even second) time you try it. Start out with a finger during oral, then add fingers as you get comfortable. Try female on top for the first time, that way you control the depth and speed. Tons of lube, the silicone based ones last the longest.
ETA: And don't have him urinate in there. Eventually the semen will work it's way out or be absorbed by your body.
My husband has always wanted me to try it. I had a horrible experience when I was very young and sexually inexperienced, so I have always been very turned off by it.
My suggestion is that you go buy a book on how to have anal sex. I bought a book on it and read it in hopes that it may ease my fears if we went about it in the correct way.
What I learned is that you cannot go from 0-60 in an instant with anal sex. You must take your time and warm up with lots of lube, foreplay, then a finger, then 2 and so on until you can accept him. Even porn stars must warm up first. No one can get into it fast at all. The book stated you will encounter stool at times and if you are into anal, get used to it. I have fingered my husband (because he loves the prostate message) and I don't mind at all. I have run into stool at times. You just have to do a very good clean up when finished. NO VAG SEX after anal UNLESS a good cleanup comes first.
If you are interested in trying it, go it alone first and figure out what feels good then move forward teaching your partner.
For me as much as I would love to please him in this way and was willing to try with practice etc. I always come back to the same conclusion FOR ME ONLY:
Why go there when the greatest place on earth is just a few inches north? When I was "practicing" I always ended up masturbating with clitoral message and never got back to the "back door"... it's just not for me and we are fine with it.