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Job Offer
just got a job offer for a job i have really wanted! But the only down thing about it is that I would have to go away for training for 6 to 7 weeks and I would be over 10 hours away from my husband. What should i do? Right now I am only temping and really need a full time position
Re: Job Offer
How does your DH feel about it?
I'm probably the wrong person to ask. I'm a former military brat and DH and I lived apart our entire engagement. So 6 or 7 weeks of training for a great job opportunity wouldn't bother me.
Is there a possibility for him to fly to see you on a weekend or 2?
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My husband really doesn't like the thought of it.
Because when we were dating we had a long distance relationship and we fought all the time. And said we would never do it again.
I am sure he would like to come vist me. But we are coming in to wedding season and he flims weddings and wouldn't be able to go just because of the work that would need to be done and on top of the he works a full time job and also a part time job.
I just don't want to get out there and go through the same thing we did almost 2 years ago.
So you won't be home on the weekends? That just seems kind of odd. I imagine that they would have you fly out on a Sunday night then fly home late Friday. I think its a short amount of time and with things like Skype you can still "hang out".
But you have to decide what is good for your relationship, becuase jobs come and go, but a marriage is forever.
To me, having a "long distance relationship" is different than a clear, prescribed amount of time when you're already married. I would absolutely do it. If you really want the job and it will get you where you want to go, I find it very selfish of your husband not to want you to go. 6-7 weeks seems like a long time...but it's not, especially when you have a definite end date.
My boyfriend and I spent about 5 weeks apart at the end of last year and though it was difficult to be alone and in a new city for him, it was fine because we knew there was an expiration on the situation.
Dh and I have spent plenty of time apart without being able to communicate. I love DH, but if I ever get a call from a federal law enforcement agency (which is what I want) you better believe I am going to the 20 week course away from him. I would prob. grow to resent dh if he ever made a comment about not wanting me to do it.
If you want it, go for it. It's better to improve yourself and your financial situation for the short amount of time than put a bigger strain on your relationship because you are struggling to make ends meet. Going to the training in my opinion is the lesser of the two evils.
I think it sounds like a great opportunity- and for only 6-7 weeks of training and 10 hours apart, I think you can make it work. It definitely isn't your typical "long distance" relationship and it can work. Just plan to make it home on weekends if you can- even though a 10 hour drive would suck- if you left friday afternoon, you could have all saturday and part of sunday together- and still be together.
Even though it would suck- wouldn't it be better to give yourself the opportunity to be financially stable as opposed to temping with the possibility of losing your job any day. Financial stability is huge- and definitely can be a huge stressor in any relationship- might as well eliminate that possibility by taking the job IMO.