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Baby Gift etiquette?

One of my co-workers has been on bedrest since she was 22 weeks. (combination of high blood pressure, low blood flow to the cord and elevated liver enzymes) If all things continue to go well in the next couple of weeks she will have a c-section on the 23rd when she is 37 weeks. We looked at her registry this week to see what we could get her from the office and only a few items have been purchased. We  have talked about either going to buy the car seat or the pack and play.

But another co-worker wants me to email her and ask her what she really needs. She is thinking things might have been given to her already and doesn't want to them to have the hassle of returning something. Which make sense, I am just not sure if an email is appropriate. I know if it was me in this situation, I wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone what I needed or what to get me. Any thoughts?

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Re: Baby Gift etiquette?

  • I don' think she has to say "get me this." She may just say "Oh we already have a carseat and packnplay" then leave it up to you to choose something else. Unless she does feel comfortable telling you exactly what she wants!
  • I think calling to ask if not only nice, but would be really appreciated.  I also think  a car seat is a great group gift :)
  • I wouldn't email her, she has a registery and in theory that should have what she needs on it.  She can return something you get her off her registery if she already got it, it's not that big of a deal, or you could get her a gift card to a place she has a registery. 

    I agree with you I would feel weird about telling people what I wanted or even sending an email asking someone what they wanted. 

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  • I don't know why I didn't think about this before, but I am going to email her husband and check with him. That way we can still have an element of surprise when they get the gift, and I am pretty sure he won't shy around telling me what they really need.
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  • I'm going an alternate route and saying to get a GC to the place she's registered at so she can use it for anything.
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  • imageMrsC968:
    I'm going an alternate route and saying to get a GC to the place she's registered at so she can use it for anything.

    Problem with that is, she is on strict bedrest. The only time she is allowed not to laying "flat" is when she is going to the doctors office. She stopped by to see us one day and she was reclined in the front passenger seat. Her husband has taken on so much so we want to make this easy for them!

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  • I'd call her and find out-- as you have pointed out, they have A LOT going on and could use something productive (and not have to worry about returning it). I think she'd be grateful for the assistance. At the point of being on bedrest and dependent on people for everything, you have to learn to ask for what you need-- that's at least my two cents.
  • imagecrystal1026:
    I don't know why I didn't think about this before, but I am going to email her husband and check with him. That way we can still have an element of surprise when they get the gift, and I am pretty sure he won't shy around telling me what they really need.

    I like this idea! Normally, I would say she could return it, but it seems like that would just be more work for them (specifically her husband since she can't do anything). I think that is very considerate of you guys!

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    imagecrystal1026:
    I don't know why I didn't think about this before, but I am going to email her husband and check with him. That way we can still have an element of surprise when they get the gift, and I am pretty sure he won't shy around telling me what they really need.

    I like this idea! Normally, I would say she could return it, but it seems like that would just be more work for them (specifically her husband since she can't do anything). I think that is very considerate of you guys!

    I agree with this, you don't want them to have to go shopping and they will need a car seat to bring the baby home from the hospital. They more then likely won't be able to go out and buy it before hand. That is so thoughtful of you all to go in on a big item and ask what they need most Smile

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