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MH vent
I am so pissed at MH now and, instead of sending him a text telling him to kiss off (which is what I really want to do), I am going to vent about it here. This morning he got up for work early and woke up DD, which is fine - he can't help that he needs to go to work. I got DD and nursed her in bed. Usually, if she's not ready to get up she'll fall back to sleep nursing, which is what she was trying to do. But, MH kept coming in the bedroom and waking her up. Which was also not his fault because he had to get ready for work.
But, then he kept leaving the bathroom door open and leaving the super bright sink lights on. He needed the light to see, but there is another light in the bathroom that he could have used that wasn't like a freaking spotlight shining on me and DD. I asked him, "Can you please not leave that light on?" And he said, "Give me 30 seconds." Several minutes later, the light was still on. I asked, "Can you please turn off the spotlight? Lily is trying to go back to sleep." He snapped at me, "I can't find my shoes."
Now, he ALWAYS leaves his shoes all over the floor. He pretty much never puts them away, so sometimes I grab them and throw them in his closet. I told him I put the three shoes he left in the doorway into his closet, but I didn't know if they were the ones he was looking for. He snapped at me, "Well they aren't there! Where are my shoes???" At this point I was really annoyed because he was insinuating that I misplaced them, so I said, "Well, maybe some random shoe burglar took them!" Then he went to leave the room and I was like, "Can you please turn off the light??" And he yelled at me, "I CAN'T FIND MY FVCKING SHOES!!!" And DD started crying.
Then he came in and found them under the bed, and then he left with a door slam and not a word.
Bah, all I want to do is text him "Maybe if you put your goddamn shoes away once in a while you would be able to freaking find them in the morning! Thanks for being an ass!" But that would be productive so I'm writing it here instead :P
Re: MH vent
Same here. Hopefully he comes to his senses and apologizes on his own. Otherwise I would probably bring it up tonight, but that's just me and I like to dwell on things and stay pissed off for a while.
UGH! Definitely don't text or make mention of it tonight. It will just fester, with you, and not him. That will ruin the rest of your day. DH leaves his stuff in different spots all the time. It's been like that since we moved here. Granted, you need to find a "spot" in a new house but come on. The good thing is he knows he does this and he knows I have eagle eyes and remember this crap so he approaches me like a 5 yr old and says "Do you know where xyz is?
If the situation does come up, tell your DH to get his things together the night before. Now that the before is attached to our room (and under Caroline's) DH tries to make as little noise as possible by getting his clothes etc together the night before. Sometimes he forgets and he'll wake me up looking for something and then I remember how thankful I am for the times he does put his things together the night before!
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I get super frustrated when I can't find something either. I have a SPOT for everything and if it's not there, watch the eff out. For example, last night I couldn't find my night cream that is always on my nightstand. I did use the light on my phone, but I felt back scrambling through stuff. Tim was already in bed. Did I find it, no! Was it on the floor where I looked 20 million times? yup.
Anywho, I can sympathize with you because Tim never puts anything away - ever. However, he knows how extremely frustrated I get when I can't find something. It's like this rage that builds up and I can't control it. :-) Seriously no excuse for Greg's lack of consideration. Maybe on super early mornings he can get stuff ready the night before to limit the noise?
Ditto. I know exactly how you feel. Sorry DH is bring a douche.
Uhhhh, I can TOTALLY sympathize. Yesterday while vacuuming and getting the house ready for a showing, I was freaking picking up DH's sh!t everywhere. Two pairs of shoes under the coffee table, his slippers, a shirt he wore the other day on the chair, 3 different winter hats, dirty socks.
I was swearing up and down while moving it too. Guaranteed once moved I would get blamed for them being "missing" too.
Sorry, I'd be pissed too.