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My fiance won't have "sexy-time" with me
I am 33-weeks pregnant and my fiance hasn't wanted to have sex w/ me for weeks. He kept saying "I have just been lazy lately" or "I am tired" then finally I kept HOUNDING him and saying that clearly there are other reasons and he finally said that he feels weird about having sex w/ me because there is a child growing inside me. Uggggh, WTH. I told him that he won't hurt him. Anyone else going through this? I feel like I want him more since he is denying me. It's very frusterating. :-/ He was also never like this before I got pregnant.
Re: My fiance won't have "sexy-time" with me
some men are like this. and i agree with pp-you probably have to respect him on this one. if that is actually his reasoning (and i'm not inclined to think any different-it seems fairly legit and normal), then i don't feel there is an underlying reason. i would let this go.
Well, at least he is finally being honest with you! I would have a talk with him and tell him that while he may have been embarressed to tell you, adults, parents of children, and married (which you will be) people need to be honest with each other, even if it is embarressing or silly or hurtful. You are supposed to be partners. So I would have a long talk about that without even bringing up the sex part (b/c if your fi can't be honest with you, sex isn't your biggest problem). That can't happen again.
Talk about other things you can do to feel close without penetration. Can you do oral sex? Petting? Ask him to give you a backrub (I'm sure you could use one!" or sleep naked and holding each other. Maybe that's all that will happen, maybe he will get so worked up that he will "forget" how much your pregnancy freaks him out.
I would also wait to marry him until things are normal/acceptable between you sexually. While being uneasy b/c you are pregnant is not unusual (men are afraid, among other things, that they will poke the baby with their huge organ, crush the baby with their weight, or induce labor when you orgasm), Elvis Presley stopped having sex with Priscilla Presley after she gave birth "because she is a mother, and mother's don't have sex." Clearly an issue you don't want to deal with!