House Hunting

munkii · March 2011

Let's say there's a house on the market that meets almost all your requirements (enough space, excellent school district, good, etc) and is listed below value, would you buy it if it meant you would literally live around the corner from your ILs (their house could be walked to within 5 minutes)?

Milliechel67 · March 2011

I would live around the corner from my inlaws because they're great and would totally respect boundaries and not come popping in every night. I'd have to think about my parents though... I don't think they'd be popping in univited or anything but I think my mom would be sad if she saw my car and knew I was home and I wasn't stopping by their house or calling her to come over.

wittyschaffy · March 2011

I think I would. Are your ILs cool enough that you could talk to them about your concerns before you go look at it?

kelnyc · March 2011

In a heartbeat! But I love my ILs.

munkii · March 2011

I'm iffy on the situation; DH seems disinterested in it because of the nearness factor. When we mentioned it to his parents, his mom made a joke that it would have to be like "Everybody Loves Raymond" where they'd pop in all the time, but the joke came out weird like she meant it. His dad is retired, so I think he might be like the description Millie gave of her mom (what she thinks would happen anyway).

Also, I wonder if my mom would flip out. When we were looking last year, there was a house about 20 minutes away from the ILs, and my mom said in a very nasty tone, "Well, you'd be closer to his parents"--as in why do you have to live near them (which I don't get because we only live 20 minutes from them now).

Cipolla2Be · March 2011

I couldn't do it....but that's just me.

Witchys_Woman · March 2011

We lived about 2 blocks from my MIL for about 2 years but she never stopped by and we rarely visited her. This is mainly due to her being crazy no matter how near or far she is from us.

HiggyFan42 · March 2011

We are actually in the process of building a house. My parents loved it so much that they are now considering building in the same sub. One of the lots that they have reserved is literally in our backyard. I think it will be nice. Instead of having one little yard for Peyton to play in, she will basically get two. It's either my parents or strangers behind us.

If they don't choose that lot, they'll still be in the same sub and I'm prefectly ok with living close to them. If it was my in laws- I would not be happy. DH feels the same. He's excited to live near my parents but would not want to live that close to his parents.

Muffin'sMom · March 2011

I'm on the fence. My in-laws...absolutely. My parents? Half a country away is not far enough.

101709lovey · March 2011

There's no way we would ever do this. I like my IL's, and do love them, but there is NO WAY either of us would ever agree to this. His parents would def be over all.the.time and I'm just not having that. I will admit, though; we live less than a mile away from my parents. In the 4 & 1/2 years we've lived here, they have maybe been over 5 times. Honestly.

nicoleabrock · March 2011

I actually do live 11 houses down from my MIL. I love it because I know where I can get homemade Mexican food any day within walking distance. She pops by every once in a while but it's never obtrusive. I would think about your relationship with them and if you did buy that house and wanted to set boundaries, I would have a conversation about it.

juangela · March 2011

For us - hell to the no. My dad actually sent me a listing in the same neighborhood as DH's parents last night as a joke. DH is not close to them at all, and hence, neither am I. They have gotten crazy since Liam got here and the further we can be from them the better.

My parents, I would have no problem, and neither would DH. We are, however, much closer to my parents. I think it is all based on your relationship with them.

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