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Teaching-Is it okay to say that I'm not coming back next year?
My husband and I recently bought a house closer to his work. Currently we are both driving 1 hour each way to work. I am a teacher and know that I will not be returning next year since the move causes me to be 1.5 hours away from the school each way. I'm really excited to share the purchase of our new house on facebook but am friends with co-workers. Is it okay to post the house and let people put two and two together that I will not be returning?
I also have an interview on Tuesday at a school close to our new home. How do I handle references if I haven't told my current employer I'm leaving?
~Kaitlyn~

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Re: Teaching-Is it okay to say that I'm not coming back next year?
I wouldn't do it. It has the potential to make the work atmosphere weird.
Do you have any references that aren't from your current school?
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I would hold off on saying something about the house unless you know you absolutely will not come back, even if you don't find a new job.
As far as job hunting without your boss knowing, simply ask that references not be contacted unless an offer is imminent. That's pretty normal, IME (I am on the hiring team at my school).
I know that I am absolutely not coming back next year.
This is my first year of teaching so I feel that using my current employers as references are really my only options.
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I think teaching is a unique field where planning for next year is such an important factor that they would appreciate knowing as soon as possible. My coworker moved out of state last year and by her informing administration early she ultimately saved a more junior teacher from being laid off due to budget cuts.
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I would definitely let your boss know and then post on facebook...not the other way around.
I left my job to come back to school and I told them months ahead of time that I wouldn't be there after X date. My H is a teacher and he told his boss the same thing months in advance since we had to relocate to another state. He used his principal and another adminstrator at that time as his references. It all worked out really well.
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I told my school in February as I didn't want them planning for the next year and include me in the plans when I knew I wouldn't be there; it wasn't fair to them or to other teachers that could be effected by me staying or leaving. I asked that my admin keep it confidential until April and they were very understanding and respected my wishes.
I asked for letters from them after telling them and there wasn't a problem at all. It is much more respectable to tell them when you are certain it's your plan than to keep them in the dark and potentially hinder their planning/staffing for next year.
It's definitely ok to tell them that you're leaving. It gives the school and administration time to find someone suitable to fill your position. Also, if you are open and up front with you principle and assistant principle, they will probably more than willing to write you a reference for your next school.
I'm from a school board that has a high turn over rate for teachers and I know that my board would be grateful to have the information up front...