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Cosmetic surgery
What are your thoughts on it?
I've been thinking about it lately for two reasons. Reason numero uno- for some reason, while every other woman I know got bigger when they were nursing, my girls stayed approximately the same size and then shrunk down to prepregnancy size when I weened DS. It just seems patently unfair. I never really considered augmentation before because the feminist in me said I'd be darned if I was going to try to fit into someone else's mold of how I'm supposed to look. Now that I'm an old lady though, and my husband seems to care not one way or the other, I starting to think "Why not?" If I want an expensive toy that I can dress up, what's wrong with that? Of course, I'm a bit of a hypochondriac that worries about blood poisoning, implant rejection, and anesthesia overdoses. Beyond that though, I'm coming around to the idea.
The other reason I've been thinking about it lately relates to DD. Since she was tiny baby, people have always commented on her "elf ears". They stick out. Badly. I never mention ears to her, but she has brought it up a couple of times. So far, she seems securely self-assured. She just refers to her "elf ears" very matter of factly. Even though she is at the ideal age right now for otoplasty (ear pinning), I'm not willing to entertain the risks of surgery to pre-emptively save her from teasing (well, she already gets teased a little, but it's minor). At the same time, I think if she some day comes to resent her ears, I'll probably cave and pay for her to have them "fixed". I would never buy her an augmentation or liposuction, but for some reason the ears thing is different to me. I'd do the same for DS if he asked, but he was lucky and has small ears that are close to his head. My kids will also probably both need braces if family history is indicative. I'm starting to save already.
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re: Otoplasty. My HS b/f had it done when he was young and the change (in photos) was astounding. Considering his self esteem wasn't sky-high when I knew him (HS-present), I can only imagine how low it would be had he not had the surgery. Just something to think about.
IMO, I think that if it makes you feel better and you are secure in your relationship, then go ahead. It's something I might consider in the future, if only for my clothes to fit better. I feel so disproportionate with such a huge body (and bottom 1/2) and smaller chest. You are far more petite than I. I just keep eating cupcakes, hoping to fluff out these little boobs.
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Have you ever mentioned to DD about otoplasty? Next time she makes a comment about her ears, bring it up to gauge her reaction.
I'm also in the little boob club. Although, it would be nice if they were a little bigger, it's not a big deal to me. This is how God made me. Being thin is part of who I am. Maybe I'll reconsider after some LOs, but for now I'm fine.
Haha- yeah the idea of having foreign objects in there is conceptually very weird to me. I just have to assume that you kind of get used to it.
Yeah, I used to embrace and not think much of it. After DS weened though and they got even smaller I was like "WTF? Are you kidding me? This is ridiculous!" I don't feel like I look like "me" anymore, kwim? If I did get them, they would be very modest. I'd be looking to go to a large B, small C- just a tiny bump up from what they were before the kids. After dealing Bell's Palsy and all of the other indignities that pregnancy and childbirth caused me, I feel like I've earned a new set of b00bs!
I have had ear surgery, but mine was reconstructive. It was painful and I had to wear a "helmet" until I was healed. the helmet was just gauzed "ear muffs" wrapped with an ace bandage around my head. If it is that bad and she says she want it, then why not if it will help her self image in the long run.
Boob job: If you are doing it for you and it is something you want, go for it. I am all for boob jobs if you are doing it for yourself, not someone else. A friend of mine just got hers done and she looks great. She got saline (which if you ask me is the only way to go) and had the incission in her armpits so it is not noticeable. She is very happy with the way they look. I will say that she has wanted them for a long time and did a lot of research before she even talked to a plastic surgeon about the procedure. I would recommend that you do a lot of research before you see a dr. I would also recommend shopping around and asking about the drs you consider. Don't settle for the first one you see.
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I totally understand. The same situation happened to my cousin after weening her 2nd (she has a similiar body type to mine). She got implants and is very happy with them. IMO, she went too big. It's the first thing I notice about her when I see her now. To each, her own... I'll get used to it.
Silly question- Hypothetically, what happens 40 years from now when you're an old wrinkly lady? Are the new boobs still perky while the rest of you is saggy? Or do they eventually sag too?
I totally understand. The same situation happened to my cousin after weening her 2nd (she has a similiar body type to mine). She got implants and is very happy with them. IMO, she went too big. It's the first thing I notice about her when I see her now. To each, her own... I'll get used to it.
Silly question- Hypothetically, what happens 40 years from now when you're an old wrinkly lady? Are the new boobs still perky while the rest of you is saggy? Or do they eventually sag too?
Implants don't last forever. You generally have to have them replaced every decade or so. I'm assuming that at some point I would be just opting for permanent removal over replacement. That's another thing that creeps me out. I have to assume that, when you take them out, whatever tissue remains would sag even more since your skin will have stretched out to accommodate the implants.
While this is true. You will probably be too old to care!
I got a breast augmentation when DD was little and it was the best money I ever spent. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I was always flat chested and wanted to atleast not look like I was walking around backwards.
As far as DD goes I guess it would depend on what she wanted before I would pay or not. She needed braces and she got them put on today and we of course are paying.
Thanks for sharing your experience. It's good to hear from someone who went for it and has been happy.
I've been thinking about having it done when we are on home leave in two years after our tour in KSA ends. I think I'll have earned them after two years of being told how to dress and having to be all lady-like and conservative. I'll get them and parade around in bikinis all day!
That's my #1 con.
I got an augmentation when DD was 10 months old and I wish I would have done it much sooner. I was petrified of the actual surgery but it went fine and recovery was only a couple of days. The implants have dropped so they don't appear overly perky and right under my chin, they have more of a teardrop appearance. I love being able to fill out bathing suits and strapless/halter tops now.
Oh on another note, I do plan to nurse with them as long as they will function.
If you don't mind my asking, was it weird getting used to them at first? Did you feel like 'What is this weird mass in my b00b?' or they start to feel like a natural part of you pretty quickly?
I'm glad to hear that they dropped and look more natural after healing. My sister got implants after having her son and went on to nurse both of her daughters with them- I hope that nursing works out well for you too this time around!
At first it wasn't really weird for me. You're instructed to massage them every day. They kind of feel like pillows inside your breasts, if that makes any sense. But yea, they do kinda just become a part of you after a while and you don't really feel them as being fake (at least in my case).
That makes sense. Thanks for sharing. I've seen my sister's too many times, but I've declined the opportunity to touch them b/c that would just be weird.
I have every intention of getting augmentation done in the future. Prior to DS, I was very happy with what I had, and now I no longer am. They lost every bit of their perkiness and became smaller than they were. I assume they will be even more wrecked from this pregnancy. I am intending on breast feeding for the next year at least, but after that I would like to restore them to what God gave me in the first place. I don't plan on going bigger than I was which was a small D, because I have a slim frame and I think anything too big on me would be out of proportion. I will completely be doing it for myself, but H is 100% supportive.
I will also look into vein surgery if the varicose veins I got during this pregnancy do not go away. Not only are they ugly, they are painful. I had a freind who had it done after her second pregnancy and at the time, I thought it seemed a little unnecessary, but now knowing how much they hurt, I completely understand.