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how would you pronounce this?
Jamas
be honest. once i get some feedback, i'll be asking for advice...
Re: how would you pronounce this?
yep... thats how I said it.
Jay-mas?
Jay-muhs?
Jam-uhs?
I'd be asking how they pronounce it!!
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A little background and maybe you can help me brainstorm...
As you all know, our daughter is Cassidy Lane. We adore the name and we were able to combine both Grandma's names (Jane and Linda) to create it. Both women are very sensitive and probably would have taken offense if we chose only one. Sad but true.
Now, if we have a boy, we would like to do something similar with our dads' names. Even though neither is nearly as sensitive, they're still married to their sensitive wives. Plus, I just like the idea. My dad is James and his is Thomas. We really, really like the name Jamas (jay-mas) as a middle name but are pretty sure no one will ever pronounce it that way. I've also thought of JT and Brian would like to throw Tojam into the mix. Just kidding.
Anyway, would you use it knowing that it's only a middle name and carries the sentimental meaning you desire or do you worry about how it may be pronounced?
I also like Jameson which takes care of the pronunciation issue, but looks like it has less to do with Thomas and more with James?
By the way, first name will most likely be Miles.I really like the name pronounced Jay-mas, but you're right, nobody would get it right. What about Thames?
I thought of Thames as another option as well when reading your description, but personally wouldn't use that for a first name. As a middle name, I like that Jamas has sentimental meaning for you. It wouldn't matter to me if people would mispronounce his middle name. It rarely gets used (except by parents who are reprimanding their child... "Miles Jamas W... get over here!" you know you're in trouble when all three names come out *wink*)
Even if people mispronounce the middle name, it's not like they'll be butchering your child's first name his whole life. As a kid, I didn't know many of my friends' middle names. Only a few of my family and friends go by the first and middle names, like "Molly Rose" or "John Elvis" (to distinguish between the elder and younger).
i think it's very nice that you want to make everyone happy but i think it's more important that you name YOUR child a name that makes you & brian happy. it worked out beautifully for cassidy but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work for baby #2.
i know not everyone will agree but this is my opinion on this:
you & your children have/will have brian's last name. to me, that is a big honor for his family. if the middle name slightly favors your dad, i think that is ok. or what about your maiden name as the middle name?
i kept my name (which is my mom's maiden name) and if we'd had a kid, they'd have had DH's last name but i would have wanted to have some of my family names into a middle name.
i think naming a child is already a big deal so i'd really consider what is important to you & brian.
My first thought was "Spanish for never." That would be a deal-breaker for me.
That said - it's a middle name, and I am of the mind that the middle name really, really doesn't matter.
But since "Jameson" means "James's son," it really doesn't honor the Thomas in the same way.
Good luck - that's a tough one.
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I think that's the issue for me. I really like the idea of somehow incorporating their names into the middle name. I feel like we were able to choose a first name that we really love out of the blue, but our families have a history of using family names for the middle. I also like the way it sounds, but it just doesn't look the way it sounds. My maiden name is "Van Horn", not very usable. Although my mom's maiden name is Steeley... I think Alicia's right in that you rarely even use middle names... And as long as he won't be made fun of for it, I think we'll go for it. Ahhhh! I don't know. We don't even know if it's a boy yet!
I was also thinking Thames. Or your maiden name as the middle name since the last name will be his dads. I dont know their middle names but maybe there is something you could do by mixing what their middle names are.
P's is Maggie which is short for his mothers middle name Margaret. (DH didnt like Margaret).
OK, while Van Horn may not quite work for you, what if you just took the Van? or varied it a little with Vance? Or, maybe turn to your fathers' middle names for inspiration.
Naming your little one is so difficult. But, fortunately, you've got time! GOOD LUCK choosing a name that you and Brian both love
My children's middle names were chosen before their first names were decided on. Shannon's MN is Elaine to honor DH's mother who is deceased. Kyle's MN is George, to honor my deceased father. After agreeing on Elaine, DH told me matter-of-factly, "well, I always just assumed that if we had a boy he'd have George." If Kyle had been a girl, her MN would have been my mother's first name.
No real advice here, I just know that naming my children was the hardest decision ever! I worried about their professional futures, their initials, pronouncing things. In the end we went with first names we loved and family names for middle. We didn't combine - Ben's middle name is Edward after Jerred's "papa," and Maddy's is Theresa after my mom's mom. I honestly don't care if I offended anyone with not including Jerred's dad's side or my dad's side - these are the names we wanted and they are my children. If people hold grudges over names they don't need to be in my life ;-)
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I was just reading through all the comments when I noticed no one suggested the double mn. And then voila! you asked.
That was my first reaction when you explained the situation.
I do like Thames, but I don't love it with Miles.
I do like Miles James Thomas.
It's not weird for me because my whole family in the south ALL have double middle names.
My initial thought was double middle name too. That way, there's no confusion as to the pronunciation and no one feels left out.
I'm not gonna lie, my first impression was to pronounce it ha-mas, and then that lead to me thinking of the Hamas, the Middle East political group.
I did think about the double MN, but figured that since you hadn't mentioned it, it wasn't your style... hence my other suggestions!
buuuuut i do like
thomas james over james thomas. just flows a bit better.....
This is exactly what I was thinking.
That was my 1st reaction too.