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Question
Monday TT said that him, his friend, and cousin were thinking about going to a local bar for trivia night. I told him that sounded fun but I got the impression from him it was a guys night so when he asked me I declined. I talked to his cousin's wife and she said she got the same impression and was going to stay home also. Well his friend and his wife stopped by his work yesterday and TT asked if he was still on for the trivia that night. The friend asked his wife and the wife said oh yeah that sounds fun. TT did not know if she was going or not. So he went to pick everyone up and he sent me a message no other wives went except her. Well she sent me a message last night and said something along the lines of why did you not come, I am the only girl, blah blah. I just told her I had a rough day and thought I would let the guys have fun. She said Oh well my husband is not going to a bar without me.
So my question are me and TT cousin that crazy for letting out DH go to the bar without us?
My honest reaction is no I trust TT and know who he is coming home to.
Re: Question
I totally agree with you. Most of the time, I would rather stay home by myself than be the only girl out with John and his friends. We trust each other, and neither of us will drink too much if we know we have to drive.
To me, it sounds like that girl has some trust, alcohol, and/or self-esteem issues if her DH can't go to a bar without her
I don't think you are crazy. I go plenty of places without G (in fact I go on vacation with my girlfriends about every year or two) and G is free to go places without me.
I think it is somewhat healthy to have time away from each other and do things without each other sometimes.
Does sound like this wife has some issues or something if she won't let her husband go to a bar by himself.
I prefer that DH doesn't go to a bar without me....but only because if he does, I'm jealous and wish I could be there!
He will occasionally go out for drinks after work with co-workers, and there have been plenty of times that he's gone to the bar with the ruggers without me (usually when I just don't feel like going, so I tell him to go without me).
But I agree with you, Carmen. I trust Shawn and I'm not worried about his "behavior" at a bar without me.
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Yeah I think the wife has some issues.
I do know when they were dating he cheated on her alot. And she says they cleared the air and things are fine. But obviously not since she HAD to go with them last night.
TT thought it was was alittle outrageous.