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QOTD - Monday 3/14
If you got a mulligan for your wedding and could completely start over and redo anything and/or everything, what would you change?
Re: QOTD - Monday 3/14
1. Would have picked a dress with a corset back. I lost 50 lbs. from dress purchase to wedding day, even though it was altered it still was too big and didn't look right.
2. Would have gotten my hair done professionally with my BM's. My curls fell out in a matter of hours.
3. Would have not used the cheapest limo company, the guy looked super creepy and got lost going to the reception hall (about 30 min. delay, no big deal).
All in all, besides thinking I looked like crap, my wedding was really successful as far as catastrophes and regrets go.
I'm pretty happy with our wedding overall. But there are definitely a few changes looking back:
I probably would've chose a different (hopefully cheaper) venue. While I love TPC, there are so many fabulous places to get married in the area - Cummer, a bazillion places in St. Aug, all the parks, etc.
I probably would've done it on a Saturday night so we could stay up & party.
I obviously would have a different MOH (since she's no longer my SIL....) & I would've had a different bridesmaid line-up (swapping 1 in & 1 out).
I would've done way more personalization to our reception. Just got too busy/overwhelmed in the end. I probably would hire Tdiddy2 (anyone else remember her knot bio?!) to DIY my wedding
I would've wore my hair up & maybe a different dress.
OH! And DEFINTELY a different photographer. I hate my wedding pics.
I would not want to redo the actual day of the wedding since i had so much fun and was just reminded of this the other day when DH's uncle posted more photos he took at the wedding on FB.
However, all the stress of planning the wedding I wish I could go back and eliminate as well as the stress I had to deal with AFTER the whole wedding and hearing about how certain people felt about things that happened the weekend of the wedding that were outside my control.
As much as I loved my wedding day and wouldn't want to change it, there is still a small part of me thinks it would have been a better idea to elope like DH suggested and get married in Vegas and then come back and have the big party with family/friends.
I would have gotten a different dj and given him a specific song list rather than "songs similar to" lists.
I had a corset dress & it was too big. It was still falling off me.
There's not much I would change about the actual wedding. It kind of makes me sick to think about how much money was spent & wonder if we should have eloped, but The Cummer really was a dream location for us & had a very unique intimate feel to it. Sometimes I wish I had done my hair differently. lol
The biggest thing for me is that I wish the stress of the final weeks hadn't gotten to DH & I so much & we would have been able to communicate better. I had SIX freakin house guests the week leading up to the wedding and his damn family was requesting to see us every night. The one thing that I asked was that he not obligate up to a bazillion things & that's exactly what he did. My family knew better and respectfully gave us space. I ended up being bitter about the whole thing & really annoyed that my family took a bit of a back seat b/c he couldn't tell his no. I also regret that b/c of said stress, I had too much to drink & too little to eat at our rehearsal dinner.
I would have done everything differently.
Different dress. Professional makeup. WAY different hair.
Maybe a tent at the park for reception instead of renting out MOSH.
Invited more friends and less old people.
Less BMs/different BMs.
Been 1,000 times more laid back.
Possibly have said eff everything and eloped and saved the money. Or at least had a DW with family and a few close friends.
I would have spent more time on the dress decision. I bough the third dress I tried on and the first veil.
I would have ponied up the money for a real photographer. I had one picked out and REALLY wanted her, but at the time I just couldn't imagine coming up with that much more money. But, we COULD have done it and in hindsight....absolutely should have.
I was a little ticked about the food situation after the wedding. I found out from a couple people that they were not allowed to get seconds. We paid the rate we did according to the event handler so that "we would not run out of food." And we actually had about 10 people not show up....that we 1.) paid for and 2.) would have been there to eat....so they wouldn't have got fed?
That's really about it. I was very happy with everything.
I would have done my hair differently. I would have made sure my dj knew to keep the music going and people dancing while we were outside taking pictures. I would have told my photog to stay till the very end of the reception. We have ZERO pictures of our exit. I would have spent more time with the out of town guests.
ETA: I would have made some major changes to the guest list.
I would have included my SIL has a bridesmaid. We weren't very close at the time and I already had 7. She was upset because she was left out and I still feel bad.
Honestly everything went so smooth I can't think of anything else I would change.
I probably would have chosen a less expensive venue. I definitely would have shopped around more for photographers.
I would have also made a sign asking people to write a note in my cute little journal-style guest book. All people did was sign their names
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C
The groom.
Seriously though, I wouldn't change anything. It was a gorgeous wedding.
I would have spent more time picking out a dress too, I liked mine, but I didn't LOVE it.
I would have focused more on what DH and I wanted and not trying to please my entire family. I loved our wedding and had a great time and it was beautiful.. but it would have been more fun to fly our close family and friends to an island somewhere and then take a nice 2 week long honeymoon there.. not to mention a lot cheaper!