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family drama and i don't know what to do!
Ok, so I posted before about how SIL is a complete loser. She lives with MIL and has taken all her money and put her in debt. She has a 4 month old baby with a married/jobless/druggie guy. She is only 25 and the longest she has ever held a job was a couple months, but she hasn't worked AT ALL in the last 2 years. she also failed her last urine test at the last place she interviewed at. Well, she posted on fb with weekend (while she was with her baby!!!!!) pics of marijuana and stuff obviously her getting ready to roll some blunts.
i also know about a month ago, she was staying at FIL's house. She waited till they fell asleep and then packed up the baby and went somewhere in their van. in the morning, FIL found her passed out in the van in the driveway with puke down the side of the van. I'm not sure where the baby was.
After the fb account situation this weekend and everything, i was pissed!!! We were getting calls (we're not friends with her on FB) telling us about it and sending us the pics. One of the people was their step cousin who is a social worker. I texted SIL yesterday and said she'll be lucky if someone didn't already contact Child services on her. Her reponse was "I know the system better than you. They won't take her away, they would just watch me closer."
What would you do? Would you report her? Long story short- we've talked about it with MIL and FIL this weekend. after other situations and things said, SIL is NOT welcomed in our home anymore and I won't go anywhere she is otherwise I might drop kick her ass. Literally.
Sorry for the long rant, I just don't know what to do and I'm worried about the baby.
Re: family drama and i don't know what to do!
I'd report her without a second thought. She obviously isn't capable of making intelligent decisions and believes there aren't consequences for her actions. I don't know what shade of stupid you need to be to post pictures of blunts on Facebook. Its like an invitation to be arrested or something.
Married / The Cookaholic Wife
Ditto.
This exactly, she doesn't have to know it was you.
keep us posted
This is a tough situtation, and I would report her. Our family went through a similar situation with an aunt. She was using drugs, stealing, partying and not taking care of her kids. She ended up losing them to foster care, which for two of the boys was my grandmother. Her daughter went to live with my uncle who ended up adopting her and raising her as his own daughter (more drama here that I will not get to).
After she had her kids taken away she got her sh!t together. She got treatment for her addicition, got clean, got a job, and eventually got her two boys back. It was too late to get her daughter back since she got adopted out by my uncle. Now she's going to school to be a substance abuse counselor.
So, what my aunt needed was a reality check and this is what it took for her to straighten her life out. It may be what your SIL needs too.