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So last night I got news from my mom who is still in FL helping with my grandma until my other aunt can come down from Nashville. Everything is going great with my grandma. They couldn't be happier with her progress.
But, there is now a new issue with my younger cousin who is 12. They admitted her to the psych ward yesterday for depression. (Little back story my grandma lives with my aunt and her two daughters 12 & 8. It was a good arrangement at the beginning after my aunts divorce. Grandma could provide a little bit of childcare while she was living there.)
It was no secret that my cousin had been having behavior issues and some of that was related to depression. She's been on meds for a few years now. I think a lot of it stems from the stress of the divorce on her when she was 6/7yrs old. Also my mom thinks she might have some form of aspergers. She has always had issues dealing with big changes and has had many odd fears over the years, and socially just interacted differently than other kids.
She had been doing fairly well but was going through a med change the last couple of weeks and then visiting my grandma int he hospital really seemed to upset her, more than it should. My aunt had noticed the difference but yesterday my cousin told her that there were "scary things going on in her head". So my aunt took her to the ER to have her checked out. They decided to admit her, I don't know for how long yet. She made it clear that she hasn't tried to harm herself or anyone else, but it was best to get the medication straighted out, and make sure there is nothing esle going on as well. My aunt can only visit from 5-6:30 every night, and she and her ExH are the only ones that can visit.
So now on top of everything that was going on with my grandma, my aunt is having to deal with all of the stuff giong on with my cousin.
Sorry that got long. I'm still trying to understand how/why someone so young is dealing with such adult emotions. I know things have changed drastically since we were kids, but it's still had to understand (especially with not too much detail) what is going on. I just really hope this starts the road to a stable life for her.
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October 11, 2008
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Sending many T&Ps out to your cousin, your aunt, and your grandmother. Hoping things will start looking up real soon.
Oh no! So many t&p's to your family.
For what it's worth hospitals can just be really hard for some people to visit (not even factoring in any mental illness) relatives in and it could have really thrown her off balance with the new meds.
I really hope they are able to get her on the right track especially since she has limited time with her parents.
Depression can affect all ages. I've done clinicals in psych wards and have seen five year olds in there from emotional and physical abuse. It's a sad thing to know that such young children can be affected so greatly by things and that anything and everything can and will affect each child's future an views on life and society. Anything could have caused this to happen with your cousin. It could have been the divorce. Was her father very strict? Children sometimes take that the wrong way and it can make them feel "worthless". Maybe she's having issues at school with classmates? Kids that age can be very harsh...I remember when my parents divorced, the kids at school found out and made me feel like it was MY fault and that since they did divorce, that I didn't have a "real" family so I was an "outcast". I was five. Maybe she felt like since the divorce, she was "forced" in a sense to grow up faster since she is the older child and take on adult responsibilties to help her mother and grandmother including caring for her younger sibling. Children who are forced to grow up too quickly in such circumstances find it very hard to adjust to different things. It's all too common to see such depression, especially in teenagers, from that type of thing.
Please don't think I'm trying to point fingers or find blame in anyone. I just know that it's very common based on studies and clinical experiences. I am sending thoughts and prayers to your family, as I know how difficult this type of thing can be. Not only on the person directly affected, but on the entire family unit close to her. There are so many types of therapy and medication that can help her, although it may take a while to find the right medication for her. Also know that these meds can sometimes take up to a month to show full effects. Just be sure your family stays patient and is available for her. Such pain has got to be difficult at such a young age. One thing that really helps is to let her know that she has support and is very much loved. I'll be thinking about her. I hope she recieves the help she needs.
I am so sorry, sending lots of T&P. I hope that her being in the hospital is a good thing in that hopefully she'll have more active care and they can figure out how best to help her.
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Thanks so much ladies. Yes her dad was the strict one. However, my aunt really does not discipline the girls at all... She doesn't have the same structure that kids need. Also her mom has been out of work a lot of her life, so money has alway been tight, which I'm sure weighs on her without her mom even realizing that it does. Mental illness does run in the family. I struggle with anxiety(and as I think back, I probably had issues with it when I was that young, but who thought to diagnose that back in the mid 90's). And we certainly have depression in the family as well. So I'm sure the combination of enviromental factors and genetics didnt do her any favors. Combine that with early puberty(I belive she started when she was about 9ish) and that is not good. I know she has severe acne which can't help her self confidence at all.
Theo one thing someone in my family did suggest(though who knows what truth there is to this) that she might be a lesbian, and if that is the case I'm sure that would def. contribute to any depression she might have had since she would see herself as different, and so many young kids struggle with that. But like I said I who knows how reliable that statement is.
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