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This is hard

I don't know if I updated anyone recently but when my boss got bad again a few weeks ago I was in touch with the board member I had spoken to and she told me she wanted to go above her head and take this to the next level. I asked her not to and said I would try speaking up, but it hasn't worked and I've had enough. I'm drafting and e-mail to her right now giving her permission to get involved. I am just terrified. I don't know how she'll react and she'll probably try and say that I didn't try speaking up. I could have done more, but she's impossible to reason with.

I'm not sure what to do...

Re: This is hard

  • You have plenty of backup with how she has treated you in the past.  Remember, legally she wasnt allowed to contact you while you were on maternity leave and she did.  All you would have to do is show phone records for that.  She is inappropriate and disrespectful and doesnt care.

    She needs to have someone above her reprimand her for her actions. GL, and dont be terrified.

  • Good luck, Caroline!!  I know it's hard, but I think it needs to be done.  She's proven that she's not going to change her behavior.  Even when you have been able to speak up and say something to her in the past, if her behavior changed at all, it was only temporary.  And didn't you say that this board member said that you're not the first employee to have these complaints?

    I know it's a lot easier for me to sit here in my house and tell you what to do....I'd be nervous, too, in your situation.  But you can do it!!

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    Good luck, Caroline!!  I know it's hard, but I think it needs to be done.  She's proven that she's not going to change her behavior.  Even when you have been able to speak up and say something to her in the past, if her behavior changed at all, it was only temporary.  And didn't you say that this board member said that you're not the first employee to have these complaints?

    I know it's a lot easier for me to sit here in my house and tell you what to do....I'd be nervous, too, in your situation.  But you can do it!!

    I agree totally

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  • Good luck! Let us know the outcome!
  • I just sent it. I am literally shaking I am so scared.
  • imagecaroline1207:
    I just sent it. I am literally shaking I am so scared.

    Take deep breaths.  Relax and just continue with your work, if she confronts you and gets nasty...walk out.  You deserve to have a boss who respects you.


  • She's calling me tonight... she wants to make sure I'm ok. Kellie - this was to the board member, not my boss.
  • imagecaroline1207:
    She's calling me tonight... she wants to make sure I'm ok. Kellie - this was to the board member, not my boss.

    Oh I know.  I wasnt sure if the board member would be contacting your boss about this while you were there today at work. 

    I wouldnt back away from making sure she knows how bad it has been.  I know you want to protect your boss, but think more about yourself.  You need to be happy and respected :) 

  • I really hope higher up can do something for you. My boss is bad but not as bad as yours. You need to think about yourself, DH and Lucie right now. You have done everything you can do. Your happiness is more important right now.

     

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