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QOTD
Inspired by Debbie's question yesterday...
How often do you see your own family/extended family?
I see my Mom about once a month, but talk to her daily. As for my extended family...maybe once a year, but sometimes it goes longer since they're mostly all up in NY/NJ
Re: QOTD
I see my family at least once a month, usually more. I talk to my mom pretty much on a daily basis.
As for extended family, it's usually about once a year, maybe twice, depending on events and all since they all live in Alabama. It will be at least twice, probably three times, this year since my sister is doing the vowal renewal ceremony next month and then two other cousins are getting married in July and in August.
DH and I were just discussing this last night. My mom has been bugging my sisters that I never visit. We thought for sure, MIL would be the troublesome one.
We visit my mom about every 3-4 weeks. MIL/FIL every other week for lunch. I rarely ever see my dad's family (I think they moved to Rochester), and have only met mom's family once. ILs, whenever there's a family party, maybe once every 3 months on average.
even though my parents live 25 minutes away, i rarely see them. (to me, rarely at least!) i go to their town maybe once a month at the most? but we will meet for lunch sometimes, so i would say i see them on average once a month. but i talk to them daily.
my sister is in NYC so i dont see her very often, maybe 5 times a year? we talk about once a week.
my cousin lives much closer and we see each other a few times a month and talk a few times a week. but she is moving to ca soon
the rest of my extended family is all over the country, so we email.
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I see my family (mom, dad and bro) just about every day. I talk to my aunt who is like my mom every day. Richard's dad passes 12 years ago, and his mom we see maybe once a year.
My extended family we see maybe 1 or 2 times a month. His extended family maybe 1 time every three to six months.
I'm not talking to my dad anymore because of the stuff that happened around the wedding. I think last May was the last time I saw him.
I was talking to my mom once or twice a month but I haven't talked to her in nearly 2 months now. I've sent her a few messages on FB telling her to call when she gets a chance so we can organize Easter but she hasn't been on recently.
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We usually see my parents a little more frequently, but usually once or twice a month. For FIL and SIL we'll see them about once a month. I try to avoid MIL at all costs.
For extended family, I see my US grandma every few months. Japanese family about once a year.
Sam's extended family is all in England, I've never really met them.
Together, H and I see my fam maybe 4 times a year. I will go visit more often, just to see my cousins and brother play whatever sport is in season.
Of course, they b!tch that I don't see them all the time. It never occurred to any of them that just maybe they can come see me. Granted all of them are like 5 feet away from each other, but really, would it kill them to come up here like once a year?
/stupid family rant
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We used to see Jeff's immediate family at least once a month, but it's tapered off to more like once every two months. When we go to NJ to visit his parents and brothers, we often also see aunts/uncles/cousins and sometimes his grandparents. My aunt and uncle and their daughter live close by and we probably see them about as frequently, but I wish it was more often.
I see the rest of my family less than once a year. My sister and mother live in WA/OR and it's not easy for us to visit each other. Not only for cost reasons, but there's nowhere for me to stay over there and neither of them would take off work if I visited. When my mom came for the wedding, I hadn't seen her for over three years. My sister had visited more recently, for our birthday.
We're not close with extended family; I've never met my aunts/uncles/cousins on my dad's side and on my mom's side, they live in MT and I've only seen them 4 or 5 times, ever. Typing it all out, it seems sort of horrible, but it's just how my family is. Completely the opposite of Jeff's family!
I see my extended family at least once a month.
I email with my mom every day and talk to my dad a few times a week on the phone. I should see him more.
My sister and I talk on the phone about once a week, my mom and I e-mail about that often and talk on the phone maybe once a month. The time difference makes phone conversations kind of tough sometimes. Jeff talks to his mom and brothers every day, and is constantly texting with his brothers. He talks to his dad on the phone a couple of times a week, but usually gets in a quick 'hi' when talking to his mom daily.
We/I see my immediate family about once a month. Most of the traveling seems to be one-sided, though. I told my mom if she wants to see this baby she better plan on coming up to visit more often.
Aunts/uncles/cousins is mostly just for holidays & special celebrations - maybe 3 or 4 times a year. Family beyond that, once a year at most.
We see K's immediate family once a week, sometimes more. In other words, way too often.
I used to see my parents all the time because I lived in the same town, and then when I moved in with H, I worked up there a few days a week and slept over 1x/week. Now it's more like once a month, but I also talk to my mom almost daily.
Oof, my sister? That's like a hostage negotiation, trying to organize a family gathering. She and my mom are just so hot and cold, and my sister hates to make plans because she says she wants to be spontaneous. She's actually just a control freak, and because her life is busy crazy, it somehow feels better to her to not have too many things planned. We're just now negotiating Easter.
that's us too. dons dad and grandfather live 5 mins down the road and his sister is only 10 mins away.
It wouldn't bother me so much except for the way MIL lays a guilt trip on ME about how much time we spend with my family. WTF? She has no clue - but acts like she knows it all. At least K and I are on the same page when it comes to her.
Love this. My sis is like this, but it's seasonal b/c of her job (she's an auditor for one of the big accounting firms). She gets much better after May 1.
My MIL did this a bit on their trip out here last month. She started going on about how when we have a baby, she hopes we'll come to PA more often than we do now. I was like
. At least H is with me on this! But then she elaborated that she wants to make sure they have a meaningful relationship with the kid(s), which I understand. The part that was a little crazypants was then saying that she wants the kid to know them as well as they'll know my parents, who only live an hour away. What, am I supposed to NOT see my parents, just so that this doesn't happen?
UM, NO. We have already discussed that we will be traveling less when there are children. People can come to us if they want to see the baby.
This is totally H's view, which made me happy. I guess his mom's point is that if we go there, we can also see his sister and her daughter, who wouldn't be able to afford to come out to CA, but still!
My parents at least once a week since they're only 30 min away.
H's parent's are 4 hours away so in the winter every couple of months and in the summer once a month.
My dad I see almost every day (we work together). I talk to my brother everyday sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. He lives about 4 hours away, we are super close. And I talk to my mom about every other to every 3 days.
I talk to my grandma (dads mom) about every two weeks on the phome and I see her about once every 4 months or so. As for my other grandma I see her about twice a year maybe three times a year.