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poll: what kind of dater were you?
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi?
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other?
where did you meet most of the guys you dated?
did you ask them out, or did they ask you?
did you wait by the phone?
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you?
has your h ever met any of your exes?
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with?
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked?
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Re: poll: what kind of dater were you?
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? none were serious as in engaged, but in terms of long-term, i would say maybe 4 or 5.
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? when i was in college i was a hooker upper. then i was a serial monogomist.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? da bar/school/work
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? they asked me
did you wait by the phone? oh yes i spent many a day calling my voicemail (before cell phones) or checking for a dial tone
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? they probably broke up with me more. i was needy and not very discriminating. i broke up with some.
has your h ever met any of your exes? no.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? just one but he's hidden so i don't see his status updates and therefore i don't converse with him. he friended me otherwise i wouldn't be friends with him. he is sketchy.
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? i would probably still be in colorado. i don't think i would have gone as far as i did in my marketing career. i think i would have been more complacent. we probably would have had kids and we probably would be divorced since we broke up and got back together quite a bit. obviously it wasn't a workable relationship.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 1 other
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? hooker upper and serial dater
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? bars and myspace lol
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? they asked me out
did you wait by the phone? no cause if one didn't call another one would lol
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I always broke up with them... well I would never break up... I just would stop calling and would fall off the face of the earth lol
has your h ever met any of your exes? H has met people I have slept with... he just doesn't know... oops
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? The one other serious relationship I was in is a FB friend. As for people I have slept with I am probably FB friends with like 10 of them.
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? We would be divorced and would have a restaining order lol. I really don't know why we are FB friends actually.
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how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 2, 1 was 4.5 years, 1 was 2.5 years
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? serial monogomist for sure
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? at school, at a school party
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? i asked him out, he asked for my number but i IMed him
did you wait by the phone? always
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? he broke up with me, i broke up with him
has your h ever met any of your exes? no
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? both
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? well, he lives in OH and has a child a few weeks older than audrey, owns a home, so i guess those things would be the same. he would never have gone for the stay at home mom thing so i think i would have had to have worked, thus been miserable. he is not an eater either so he would probably hate my cooking and dining interests. he is one of those super independent, sporty, thin, active types and married an independent, super skinny, active, sporty type.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? Define serious....I dated a few guys for a long time, and dated a few that I thought I could marry later in life...
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? hooker upper and dater...depended on the guy!
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Bars or parties. I was a party girl in college.
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? If I was asked on a date, the guy asked. I don't think you ever really talk about hooking up...or at least I didn't.
I just did it!
did you wait by the phone? In HS. College, no.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I broke up with everyone I dated or with boyfriends, except maybe 1 or 2. But with hook-ups, we just stopped hanging out or calling each other.
has your h ever met any of your exes? Not anyone I was ever serious with, but lots of the guys I've hooked up with.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? Only one of the serious ones and some hook-ups.
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Still wouldn't have had kids bc I'm not ready for that, no matter who I'm with. Job and area would be different. I dk if it would have worked...it didn't work back then, so I doubt it.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 2
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? A hooker upper until I was 21 - then seial monogomist for 4 years (two 2 year relationships). Then back to a hooker upper and then I met H. I have been on maybe like 2 "dates" ever. I find them awkward (more awkward than drunkenly making out with someone and then dating them!)
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? through friends (all of them in fact)
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? they asked me. I only asked one guy and we dated for like a month - he was a loser
did you wait by the phone? Um...no. It's usually we hang out once and then are attached at the hips (was like that for all 3 serious relationships). Other guys I just didn't really care. I did wait by the phone for my bf when I was 18, but I wouldn't call that a serious relationship.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I have been the breaker upper every time.
has your h ever met any of your exes? Not my long term ones, but he's met past flings
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? Just one - the one I was "with" when I was 18, but like I said it wasn't serious. It was more of a he tried to claim he was my bf, but cheated on me all the time so I wouldn't let him call me his gf. Way to keep myself from being hurt I guess - I also refused to have sex with him - go me!
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? It would have likely worked, but I'd be bored with the relationship probably. We'd be living in my hometown, I'd be a teacher still I'm sure. No clue what he would be doing and probably no on the kids. I'd probably be holding off so nothing would be "tying" me to him.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? Really only one (for 3 years in between when H and I dated)
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Definitely serial monogomist
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? School. H in High School, other BF in College
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? They asked me.
did you wait by the phone? Nah.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I did the breaking.
has your h ever met any of your exes? I don't remember if H and ex ever ran into each other. Hmmmm....I don't think so.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 0
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Ew...I don't even want to think about it. That guy was a total drain. I would never have gone to NYC, never discovered my love for food and cooking and never gone back to school...never done a lot of things.
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how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? no other serious relationships
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? a hooker upper, but only with making out. I didn't do it until I was with H (the BF)
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Bars...probably why I never had a serious relationship
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? They asked me. I was fairly painfully shy
did you wait by the phone? Not really
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? There was only once when a break up was really necessary and I broke it off. The others just kinda ended before they even got going
has your h ever met any of your exes? No
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? none
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Let me preface this by saying that I was the "other woman" with this guy, but I didn't know it till later and we never had a real relationship. We worked together and over the course of a year or so we occasionally went out and would make out. Kind of a friends with benefits deal. I imagine I would be divorced because he was a big player. I would probably also be in Mass. still and hopefully would have been smart enough to leave before any kids.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? - Only 1 before H
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? - I would have some fun here and there but I guess a serial monogomist b/c I was with H several weeks after breaking up with my ex.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? -- N/A.. I never really dated. But the few I did were friends of friends.
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? -- Don't really remember.
did you wait by the phone? -- No
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? -- One break up and I dumped his asss.
has your h ever met any of your exes? -- Yes, we were all friends at one point.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? -- Zero
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? -- really I have no idea. Probably living in a bummy apartment somewhere b/c he would have a grimy job in a factory. I never considered him a "provider" type.
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how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? None
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Pretty much serially single. I slept with 2 other guys besides H, and neither were relationships. And I slept with all 3 in a span of 10 months.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Let's see, college frat party, college "prom"- he was security, and cook at a restaurant I worked in.
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? The cook and college party they initiated, but I made the effort for the security guard. I'll tell that story in a different post.
did you wait by the phone? Not really.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? The only "boyfriends" I had were when I was in 9th grade, and they did the dumping.
has your h ever met any of your exes? No. He hasn't met the guys I've slept with. He's met the 1 guy from high school that I wanted to have a relationship with, but never did.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? None
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Not applicable, because the only person I would have been serious about I didn't actually date.
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how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? One
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Hooker-up in the younger years, serious relationship, then a bit of hook-up/dating.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Bars
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? They asked.
did you wait by the phone? No.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? Not many full-on break-ups (not many serious relationship). For the SR breakup, I did called it quits.
has your h ever met any of your exes? The SR ex? No. He has met guys I casually dated, very, very casually though.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? Casual boy (the one H has met actually).
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). I flat out wouldn't have... we were engaged but I truly couldn't go through with it. He's not a bad person, I guess. I was waaaay too young for such a serious relationship and should never have gone there in the first place. Fundamentally, we're just so radically different, I can't imagine adult (real adult) life together.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? none
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? i guess a dater but i really didn't date much before DH...really, just a couple of dates/hanging out and prom with two other guys
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? church and work
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? they asked me for the most part, i asked one to prom
did you wait by the phone? i probably did
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? since they weren't really relationships, i'd say they just kinda fizzled out...
has your h ever met any of your exes? he was friends w/ one of the other guys i hung out with, and has met the other one...
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? i wouldn't even consider him an ex, but one
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? n/a?
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? Well most of them were in high school, so at the time they were as serious as you get back then. Four other guys (including Andy).
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Serial monogomist
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? 1- high school band, 2&3-drum corps, 4-a friend's roommate
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? all of them asked me out
did you wait by the phone? One of my other relationships was long distance, so I waited by the phone plenty.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I've ended every relationship I've been in.
has your h ever met any of your exes? Yes. FI was friends with boyfriend 1, met boyfriend 3, and met Andy.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 2
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Sadly I know exactly how it would work out since I did end up marrying my most serious ex.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 2
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Serial monogomist. And I was never single for more than a couple of weeks between boyfriends.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? School or work
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? Hmm... A little of both
did you wait by the phone? Not after high school.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? It was always a mutual thing.
was your h ever met any of your exes? All but 1. And I'm totally fine with that. The last time I saw the 1 he hasn't met, the loser was in jail. No kidding.
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 2 and 1 isn't really an ex
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? OMG. I would probably be living in misery. I'm sure we would have divorced. No kids. I may have gone back to school but maybe would still be working in retail management, married to my job. I think we could have made it work but neither of our hearts would have been in it (hence the reason we broke up in the first place)
ETA: I lied! I edited to fix that...
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 3
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Mainly a serial monogomist but was a serious hooker upper in between bwahaha
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? work
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? umm 1st he did, 2nd and 3rd were more of a mutual discussion
did you wait by the phone? for some yes
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? haha umm after they cheated on me it was a back and forth except #3 I broke it off
has your h ever met any of your exes? no
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 2 and the other I follow on Twitter
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Ok I say I thought #2 was very serious but we were young and I found out he was unfaithful so much. But #3 I could have married. He's a great guy but we just grew apart and he doesn't have the WOW I needed. I'd be in Iowa living downtown Des Moines probably, we'd probably be married by now and maybe talking kids. I would have switched jobs from what I was doing and do something downtown I'm sure.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? 4? 5?
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? dater with a stint of being a hooker upper
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? school, or through friends
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? both
did you wait by the phone? just a few times
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? About 50/50
has your h ever met any of your exes? Yes
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 1
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? Hmm...probably living in the same area, same job, kids...Very similar life. Not sure if it would've worked - I think hindsight is influencing my thoughts on this.
how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? Serious as in thought it was going to lead somewhere long term just 1, but I did date several guys for long periods of time but they knew we werent committed.
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? I have to preface this buy saying I didnt date in High School. So all "dating" that took place during college. I met H 4 months after I graduated college. So I would say dater with at times slutty hook up spells.
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Online, really surprised no one else has said that.
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? They had to ask me out. I played by "The Rules".
did you wait by the phone? Nope I played by "The Rules". I never wanted to appear available and desperate.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? The serious relationship I did the breaking up and that was a doozy. Ill post about it sometime. Its entertaining. Other then that I got my heart broken a lot which led to the slutty hook up spells that were meant to be empowering LOL.
has your h ever met any of your exes? Ex hook ups yes, but he doesnt know it. He was even at our wedding
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how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? 2
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked?
These questions are why I freaked out and broke up with him in the first place. My life would be no where near as comfortable as it is now. If I hadn't divorced him by now we'd probably be living in a cheap apartment struggling to get buy b/c he is never going to amount to anything. We still wouldnt have kids b/c we wouldnt be able to afford the fertility tx's. I seriously doubt my family would have let it get that far.
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how many serious relationships did you have before h/fi? Define "serious" Most of them were seriously messed up. If you mean long term, only 1.
were you more of a dater, a serial monogomist, a hooker upper, other? Dater/hooker upper
where did you meet most of the guys you dated? Um.. I always liked to have variation. I picked up one guy at his grandmother's funeral, another at a friend's church, school functions, the park, the subway, coffee shoppes... I wasn't choosey.
did you ask them out, or did they ask you? I asked out just about every one.
did you wait by the phone? I'm sure I did briefly in HS, if I was really into someone, but I always played it cool. Besides, waiting by the phone isn't a bad thing. It ensures you'll get a date that night.
most of the time did you break up with boyfriends, or did they break up with you? I'd just stop calling back until they fell off the face of the earth. Always worked.
has your h ever met any of your exes? Yeah.. He worked with one actually! Another EMT at his station lit up when J mentioned my name.. He was just a bit shitshocked that the other EMT was a female. He always knew my orientation, but was shocked about that one! Esp since she's a firefighter now LOL. He's met one or 2 others briefly, and has met people I've slept with (but we didn't mention this!)
how many of your exes are you facebook friends with? Zero. I was friends with one, but he passed away the other year
So, other than that, I don't even speak to my exes.
go back in time - you had to have married the ex you were most serious with next to h (basically who you ranked second in terms of seriousness). what would your life be like now? would you be living in the same area? job situation? kids? etc. would it have worked? It most definitely wouldn't have worked out. We were always cheating on each other. He was physically and emotionally abusive and a real jerk. If we weren't divorced by now, I'm sure I'd be in jail for killing the SOB. As for area, I'm sure I'd still be in NY.. just in a dump somewhere. Job I'd probably still be at an even more dead-end job, since he never believed in my culinary ability.. and I'd never bread with that jerk!
I have thought the same thing whenever I read your posts lol. I'm hoping to get up to NY within the next year so we most definitely will :-)
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