Hudson Valley Nesties
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Advice on a Sad Situation
Hi ladies,
I haven't been around lately, but I heard sad news today and thought about the HV Nesties immediately.
One of my closest male friends from college texted me this morning that his son had been stillborn on Monday. His wife had been 37 weeks. I am devastated and at a loss of how to handle the situation.
A service is being held tomorrow morning at a church, and I am unsure if it is appropriate to send flowers, mass cards or something else.
I know in a horrible time like this, there is nothing I can do to help other than just be "there" and support my friends. But I do want do anything and everything possible.
Thanks. And please pray for Baby M and his parents.
J.
Re: Advice on a Sad Situation
Always missing my Mommy (1954-2010) and Daddy (1943-2012)
TTC since 2009 ; BFP 9/13/10 = MC 10/21/10
DX = DOR/POA (AMH=1.1; AFC=4-5)
Surprise BFP 8/31/11 while waiting to cycle for IVF
Welcomed our little miracle 5/7/12
can you send fresh fruit or muffins? lots of people will bring them heavy, comfort foods - but sometimes something lighter is preferred.
i'd send a condolence note, and i'd probably look into some sort of donation to a children's organization in the baby's name, or plant a tree in his name.
what a horrible, horrible thing.
I know when I was in this situation myself, just having people let me know that they were around to help, or listen, or just offer silent support was so helpful. Cards were great also, it was so nice to read all the special messages from people whenever I wanted. I would say send a card over calling, I know myself, I had a hard time talking to people, I had to want to, at least with a card they will know that you are thinking of them. I do have to say, some people cooked meals for us and that was fantastic!! I also have to say that the necklace I got from the nesties was beautiful, it was a necklace with both of my children's names--I still wear it all the time and its been 1.5 years!!
All in all, just let your friends know that you are there for them, when they are ready!! I will be thinking of your friends and their family at this difficult time!!
Thoughs and prayers to your friends. I agree with everyone's suggestions.
I know when my brother and sister in law lost their son (although not the same...he was 2 1/2), just knowing people were there for them when they were ready to talk or whatever meant alot. My sister in law especially, wanted no visitors and didn't really want people stopping by unannounced and would get really upset when they did. My point is, just let them know you are there for them but also, let them tell you when they are ready.