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So tell me this is stupid...
I think I really need to defriend my brother on Facebook. He sent me a message this morning "warning" me that my father has something *big* planned and he needed to warn me. He couldn't tell me what it was, but he wanted to warn me.
For those that don't know my bg, my father wins asshat of the year, hands down. My mother wasn't even in the ground before he started an argument over her belongings. They were in the middle of divorcing when she passed from stage 4 cancer, oldest brother had her personal belongings and her will divided them between my two older brothers (Mike and Kyle) and me. Her life insurance policy named me and oldest brother Mike beneficiaries. Kyle stole my mom's wedding ring, and had run up a $5,000 credit card bill in her name. She didn't report him to the police, but she couldn't trust him.
My father was furious when he found out that she had changed her life insurance beneficiaries and that he wasn't getting anything (you know, besides the house, the cars, the land, the farm, and oh...being alive). A couple of days after the funeral we had it out over the phone and I told him that he was to never call or never step foot on my property or I'd call the police. I haven't heard from him since, but I still worry that he's going to try to pull something like suing for visitation of my sons, or trying to sue us for something. I talked to my lawyer and there isn't anything he can legally do, even if he had the courage to drive the three hours to file something in my county. No judge is going to give him grandparents' rights either.
So I know there's nothing he can do, but still feel uneasy about my brother's message. Kyle moved back in with my father, and has been under his thumb ever since.Kyle was bragging to my cousins that HE was going to get everything when Dad dies because my father changed his life insurance policies to make him the beneficiary. He'll be *so rich* when he sells everything and leaves.
It makes me wonder if he's making us these "warnings" to just try to rattle my cage/get attention from me. He can't play this golden child act, but then turn around and play all frightened brother-I must warn you-act, right? Should I just delete him from my Facebook and forget it?
Re: So tell me this is stupid...
Yes, deleting him sounds like a good plan.
How's "Jack"?
Yes... Delete him. I find your brother disgusting person just from what you wrote.
Seriously.... Delete. and put it out of your head. IF he calls to ask why... don't answer. Stop contact with this idiot.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
Why don't you call him and ask for details?
But yeah, I think they got drunk and your father made some big mouth claims about BIG PLANS and your brother is stirring the pot.
Delete him and cut off contact with him entirely.
If you talked to your lawyer and you're sure your financial ducks are in a row in regards to your mother's estate, then you probably have nothing to worry about.
Visitation rights would depend on your state. Some states are more cooperative with grandparents than others. If you're really fearful of this, talk to your lawyer, and if you have any evidence that your father isn't doing things that are in the best interest of your children, start gathering it up (e-mails, etc.).
Delete, block, and if they contact you further about inhertiance/estate stuff, I'd say they can speak to you through your lawyer.
If your father is asshat of the year, then I bet Kyle won't see a cent when he passes.