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marriage counseling
Hello ladies! I was thinking about getting some marriage counseling for my husband and me so we could work on communicating better while raising two kids and working full time. Have you had any experience with this? And do you know of any great therapists?
TIA!!
Owen is 2.5 yrs old and Molly is almost 1!
Re: marriage counseling
We've actually done counseling since before we got married & throughout our marriage. I suppose being a therapist, and knowing I end up with a lot on my plate that I need to work through (which he doesn't necessarily know how to deal with) it just seemed a natural thing to do. It really has helped us a lot.
Our counselor was in Holland, so I don't know if that really helps much. One thing to think about in this area is whether or not you want a Christian or secular counselor and then look for resources one way or the other. Even though I have a Christian background, it was really weird for me the first time scripture was brought up in a counseling session since I'd always experienced traditional psychotherapy prior to that.
In the mean time, one thing we found extremely helpful was keeping a notebook & writing notes back & forth about stuff we were thinking. My husband is really slow to process things (especially feelings) so that way he didn't feel attacked if I said I was upset, & he could formulate a response without being put on the spot. We also work opposite shifts so there wasn't a ton of time to sit & talk even about fun stuff. Anyway, that's one suggestion for while you're trying to figure the rest of it out. Good luck!
I don't have any suggestions for you, but I wanted to say good for you guys! Jim and I have talked about getting some more tools in the ole communication tool box. We haven't made an appointment with anyone yet, but plan on working to make things even better soon.
Parenting and being partners at the same time is difficult.
On another note, I'm glad to read you have 2 children now, and that you are not 50 weeks pregnant as indicated by your ticker. Phew.
What about Pine Rest. I know they do a lot in that field. I know someone who is going there now. I will have to ask her how she likes her counsler.
One good thing about that is if you didn't click with the counsler, you could always switch to a different one in the pracitce.
I went to Pine Rest for a long time. I was very happy with my individual counselor. We didn't click with our marriage counselor, but that's not to say they don't have other great ones. Good luck
Pine Rest has a great counseling staff