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Baby or Alaska
that appears to be the question.
Ugh, Alaska is looking to be more pricey than we thought. We really want to go before we have a child though.
So do we go outside our financial comfort zone and do Alaska next summer and then ttc in 2013 or push everything a year?
I don't think DH wants to be 41 when we start trying. Then again, what does it matter if that means we can bring a child into a financially stable household?
Re: Baby or Alaska
I think that's a pretty important factor, at least I know it is for us. We want to be as stable as possible financially before we start. We actually set a budget goal in our mint.com account that we're working towards before we ttc. Maybe it's a bit unneccessary, but it's what we need to do to feel ready.
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Financially stable is obviously a huge thing, his age... not so much. Are you okay with waiting another year?
For us, we knew we wanted three big trips just us two before we had a child. Granted we found out we were expecting on our last big trip together, but that was the plan. I would say if Alaska is on your baby bucket list, then do it and wait a year. But if you really can't justify putting off a LO another year ... then that's your answer.
Ultimately you know it's your decision as a family. Dh was worried about being an "old" parent (he's crazy, mind you) so we started sooner than originally planned. Originally it was supposed to be this January, but I was ok with pushing it forwards a few months, and we were in a position where we could.
Honestly, I would love a trip to Alaska. We're planning on going with the kids when the oldest is 11-13 yrs. I would've loved to travel more when I was growing up, so we definitely want to to a big trip like that with our children.
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This is my thought, while we have started a baby fund, it's not a priority for savings right now, b/c we've been focusing on the house. We are also working to pay off DH's truck early, which will free up more money.
I guess we just need to really talk and see what we want to do and how much we're each willing to compromise.
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Yeah, but kids have never been the means to an end for us. Sure it's something we want, but if it doesn't happen, we've prepared ourselves for possibly trying medically or adoption or being happy as aunts and uncles.
I know it's not a popular opinion on this board, but motherhood isn't my ultimate goal in life. Sure it's something we want, but not in the same vain as many here.
We'll figure it out, we always do. I'm only 29, it's not like I'm going to wake up on my 30th birthday and all my eggs have fallen out overnight, lol.
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I'm not going to touch the "motherhood is not my ultimate goal" comment with a 10' pole.
But it does sound like you're ambivalent about it, but you really want to go to Alaska so go ahead and push it back. Or you could spend less money on your trip to Alaska. Or you could go to Alaska with you child(ren) so they can experience it too.
FWIW, Thom and I spent a week in Alaska for under $2k including airfare. How do you like camping?
Do you mean, like a hotel with no room service camping?
We're planning on a cruise, since we have enough points to have one of us at least half price next summer, or free if we push a year. This would be a combined trip also visiting friends in seattle.
I'm sure we'll talk more and figure out what we want and when. We've always said we were on a 5 year plan for kids, which would be 2013, but I have to listen to my DH who doesn't want to be too old when a child is in the picture.
And I'm sure we'll go back to Alaska again.
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This.
I feel that being financially stable is important, but you live by your means. We are financially stable but by no means are we rich. We still have my student loans and and a car payment, but we make enough to pay on that and still save. To us, we would rather keep paying on that for the two years we have left and go ahead and have a baby. I'm glad that's what we decided because of all of the trouble we are having (and I know not everyone has trouble). We love to travel too and take many trips a year. We will continue that when we have a baby...in fact, we are going on a Hawaii cruise next summer with both of our families. Hopefully, we have a baby by then.
That being said, I know everyone is different and my priorities aren't necessarily your priorities and if age is not a factor to you, then I would say do the things to you all want to do now before baby