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This might come off a little snarky, but....
To what extent do you think you should accomodate special diets? I'm all about trying to have something everyone can eat, don't get me wrong, and I'm sensitive to people's allergies. But is there a line?
For a hypothetical example: I'm throwing this huge dinner party for my coworkers this weekend (my 24x24 party). Menu has been completely planned for several weeks. If you were throwing a party like this and then found out there was a vegetarian or someone with a gluten-free diet coming, would you re-vamp the menu? Or just hope there's enough of the other stuff for them to eat?
Discuss.
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note- I'm not talking about having a couple over for dinner and they are both vegetarians. If they are your only dinner guests, you oblige. I'm talking more of a large-scale menu with lots of people.
And ps, this really is hypothetical. There's some discussion on WC about a similar thing, wanted a few more opinions. And we're kind of slow.
I'm pescetarian. It can be difficult when you go someplace and have nothing but bread or a side to eat. When the food is made for a larger crowd, I understand that my options will likely be more limited.
If I know the person, I'll ask what's on the menu. If it involves a lot of things I won't eat, then I'll eat ahead of time, or even offer to bring something.
I'm also fine with working with meat dishes where I can easily pick out the meat. Like chicken in pieces, etc.
A lot of people who have particular diets are used to adjusting to whatever is prepared.
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See, this is what I would see myself doing if I had special diet needs/preferences
I think this is appropriate.
My vegetarian sister has been off of meat for 16 years and frequently just makes a combination of sides into a meal. I'd assume they're capable of doing that, especially if you are serving adults.
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I think being aware and making a variety of options is great, but definitely not re-vamping the whole menu to fit their needs. This is interesting to me especially right now because I currently have to have a very restricted diet(no dairy/shellfish). I have been to quite a few dinners with friends where this issue came up these last few months. I always offer to bring something that I can eat too and know there are going to be different things to choose from that I can have, but never expect them to change around what they are having just for me.
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I have to eat gluten-free, and honestly for a big dinner like this, I would never expect them to re-vamp the the menu to be gluten-free. I would hope that there is one or two things that I can eat, but I would also go in either having eaten ahead of time or planning on eating something afterwards. That being said, gluten free is a little easier these days, in that you can find GF pastas, breads, etc that it would be so easy to just use these GF versions instead of the regular versions and honestly most people would never notice the difference. So, you could go that route. It definitely shouldn't be expected by anyone with special diet needs but it would absolutely be appreciated.
Smaller, more intimate dinners with my friends, I would probably ask that they make the dinner with my needs in mind, just as I would keep someone elses special diet needs in mind if I was throwing the dinner party.
thanks gals, I was starting to feel a little biitchy for not being that accommodating. Like everyone said, having someone over for dinner is different than having like 30 people over for a party. And it's not like every side dish is full of bacon or bread, and that's true of any party I would throw.
I feel validated now. Thanks gals.
I am an aim to please kind of girl, but with a planned menu, I probably wouldn't make big changes. Maybe make sure there is one side dish that is gluten-free/vegetarian (like roasted vegetables).
My best friend is vegetarian, and I do try to accommodate her to a degree. I still have meat, but I won't put meat in a stir fry or anything.However, if she's at a party/dinner party, she always finds something that she can eat and she never, ever complains. I believe that is you have a special dietary need, that you adapt to your surroundings, not the other way around. So I truly think it's fine to stick with your menu.
I'm struggling with this too because my other best friend just found out that she can't have gluten and honestly, I'm a little clueless in this area.
Like most pp's have said, no I wouldn't change the menu. I have a friend who is a vegetarian and I always keep her in mind when making stuff. So if I make chicken wing dip, I always make a small amount without the chicken etc. but she doesn't expect it. She appreciates it but wouldn't be upset if it wasn't available. Whenever she comes for a large bbq or something, she always brings her own Veggie burger bc she doesn't expect us to provide one for her.
I don't eat any fish and there are always things with lots of fish in them. I just don't eat them. If it was the main course, I would just pick at what is available and when I was done, I'd grab something on the way home if needed. I would never be mad about it.
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